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Hey thanks for the advice . The only thing that has me not worried, but confused is why he'd rather I call him all the time than for him to call me again. I wonder if it's just a preferance not to call someone (not like a phobia but just a "thing" he has) or if it's a subtle hint he may not want to talk to me and initiate conversation. Oh well. Thanks to everyone that gave their advice, I appreciate it a lot.

Honestly yeah haha. I mean im not just saying that because I want him to like me, but he gets like 3 hours of sleep every night. He looks exhaughsted most of the time (I feel bad for the guy, thats gotta be tough). He works the first job from 8am-3pm, rushes to school and has classes from 3:30-8:00pm, and goes to his 2nd job from 8:30pm-4:30am then starts it all over. Now I know a relationship with him would be near impossible now, but he's going to graduate in a few months so I would like to at least make friends now and try to get into something more serious (if he's interested) after he's done with school. I'm very busy with school, but at least I have freetime and weekends off. I wouldn't be persuing this if he didn't always say that he'd like to talk to me and for me to call him. This whole thing sucks, but something keeps telling me it will be worth the wait.

Thanks you two! Well now that I think about it I don't even know if he likes me back, or is just nice and wants to help. He was so eager though to give her his phone number for me. He's extremely busy and said that he'd prefer that I call him most of the time so we get a chance to talk without him forgetting to call. Im very shy too and this is hard for me, I'd prefer that we call back and forth so Im not doing all the work. I'll try calling him sometime this week and I'll casually mention that he can call me too sometime. As for summer he's still gonna be very busy. He's still working both jobs and taking summer classes like me so it will be very hard to talk to him.

Okay, so a couple of months ago I went to a party with a friend and she always said, "hey you should meet this guy, he's so great and he's doing the same major as you and even though he's never met you he told me that he'd be willing to help you if you needed advice for the classes". I brushed it off but then I met him at the party and we barely spoke because we are so shy and she said he's not normally that quiet, he was probably just shy because I was there. From the moment I saw him I felt that 'spark' people talk about. So when my friend saw him again he gave her his number to give to me to call him if I needed help, but I was scared and didn't call him for like 4 months lol. When we finally spoke (the only time called me back) I was a wreck at 1st, but he made me comfortable. We mainly talked about school, but had a good time laughing and after 20 minutes he had to go, but told me to call him anytime. Now I know he's busy (2 jobs and goes to school) so I dont want to bother him. I still have more questions plus I want to add small talk in there so i left a message (home phone). Its been a week and my friend saw him again and told him i called, but he said he's been working 15 hours shifts and going to school. He gave her his cell number for me (he answers it more) and said I could call anytime. When I didnt call his cell he told her "she hasn't called me, is she okay?" I don't wanna interrupt him at work or school on his cell so I called his house and left a message and figured that I'd ask him what time is best to call next time I talk to him. Does he just not want to call me back? Why do I always have to call? He's telling her I can call, but im not gonna keep calling looking desperate until hes able to pick up. I dont think he has a phobia of calling people lol so why all of this? Should I just forget it? He just busy? He's the nicest guy so its not like he's just leading me on. Is he shy?

thank you guys so much for the replies! um yeah im thinking i should get bloodwork too, but if my doctor didn't believe me the 1st time, I think i should go to another haha. Yes, i drink A LOT of water. It's my fave drink and i dont drink soda or anything. I watch my portions and eat healthy but im still in the rut. Oh thats the strange thing. When i did eat less than i should i kept that weight off for 3 months and even ate normal again after prom and stayed at that weight so i was happy. it was when i started exercising and eating right that it caught up with me. it is very odd. It's not jus weight gain though, but my clothes fit now like they did before i lost the 36 pounds in the 1st place. Yeah, unfortunately i do have a slow metabolism, how does green tea taste? i might look into it. thanks again for all the suggestions

I understand that (which is unfortunate for all us girls haha), but I don't know why I gained all that in one month because I started exercising. Is there nothing I can do? My doctor didn't believe me and didn't try to help. My clothes fit tighter in one month like they did before prom which took years to accomplish.

I've been exercising every other day for a month (an hour of walking, sometimes 2 and Tae-bo) and eating less and more healthy and i've actually gained weight and my clothes fit tighter!!! I lost 36 pounds before prom doing the same, but actually eating less than I should (bad I know) but I kept that weight off for 3 months and went back to eating normal. Then over summer gained 10 pounds cuz I got lazy. So I tried to get back to working out and I've gained 14 pounds and my clothes fit tighter than before and my face is starting to fill out. What's going on!!! Oh and I went to my doctor and he thought I was lying. He was like come onnnn, you can tell me if you didn't really ever exercise, you just better start now (since he saw I gained a lot since my last check up).

omg no no haha he teaches at my old high school. i go to college now sorry i didnt clarify that earlier

Hello everyone! This is gonna be very long...i apologize in advance Well I really care about this wonderful guy. I consider him to be one of the best people I've ever met and no matter what happens I'm glad i got to know him. The problems: 1. he is 10 years older (Im 19, he's 29, but he's single, never been married, no kids, not looking for marriage right now) 2nd problem: hes is my former teacher. It's been 2 years since I was in his class, but I can't forget him. He's honestly a wonderful person. It wasn't "love at first sight". It was his 1st year teaching, but I was like eh since he's so young he might be cool. After 2 months of hearing his stories, sense of humor, kindness, and genuine interest in my life I began to realize I really liked him. There was only 15 people in the class (it wasnt a core class, but a cultural elective) so it was a small laid-back environment. We have a lot in common and if you saw him you'd think he was 21 (not only looks wise, but child at heart, but not immature). I've always been shy and he always picked on me and tried to get me to open up to everyone. We all had a great time and I couldn't have asked for a better teacher. He was always very aware of the fact he was a teacher though. For example women teachers have no problem hugging on the last day of school. He's very attractive and some girls tried to give him a hug, but he said no and only gave out handshakes haha. I've felt this connection to him and for some reason I think he feels the same. Like small glances, his smile, when he looks into my eyes, but then he'd distance himself like he knows its wrong since he was my teacher. The lasy day he looked kinda shy and said I should visit him even though I wont be in his class anymore (he asked everyone that though). Of course I did a few times senior year and he said a lot of people don't, but he was happy I decided to keep in touch. Of course he was still careful, but more laid-back since I didnt have him anymore. This is gonna sound strange, but it's like something keeps making us see each other by accident. For instance I went out to eat with a friend to an Italian resturant and jokingly said I wish "he" would just walk in. I swear not more than 5 minutes later he came in and we just saw each other, laughed and were like omg! He came to my table and just stood there and we chatted for 3 mins. (he asked if i was moving out of state for college, if i was moving, we asked how each other was, he asked if my family was okay, etc.) then he went back to his table with his friends. Even my friend notices. She was like you guys are perfect for each other. We laugh at the same things, finish each others sentences, joke around, and know what the other is thinking. I've never felt this way, I love spending time with him even if it's been cut down to like 5 mins nowadays and I wonder if he's doing okay everyday and hope he's happy. At graduation (i was surprised he came, he said it was boring last year) he said bye backstage and gave me a hug and told me to visit if im not too busy with college. He walked away then turned around and kinda stared at me then started walking towards me again. A friend of mine walked up to talk to me (not knowing she interrupted) so he looked disappointed and just left. That was the last time I saw him. I know this sounds weird, but something is telling me not to give up and just be patient and wait and things will come into place. I truly care about him, but the high school has started again and im contemplating visiting. I really want to, but is it best if I dont? Should I move on because it would be feeding my feelings for him? Or should I visit him as a friend? Now im not saying I know for a fact he feels the same, but I'd like to stay in touch. Lastly theres the factors of him being 10 years older and being my former teacher. I see no problem with the age, we are so much alike, but would others see the teacher thing inappropiate? Would it be terribly wrong now? We've never been romantic, im 19 and in college, and haven't had him in 2 years. Should anything happen I wouldn't want to hurt his reputation (not that we'd tell everyone and anyone but still...) Sorry it was so long but help would be appreciated