precious_babae

Seems as if you are locking yourself too tight inside. Open up, its okay. Some people think its cute if you blush or get embarrassed or mess up. Thats what sparks conversation. Let loose, if you stress about stuff this simple, your gona have a heart attack at the age of 30

Well obviously the way you are looking at the relationship is as awful as he is too. "Acting as if he is doing a favor for me being with me" or whatever, wait a second, do you feel its a favor for you to be with him because of his "baggage" This is just a bad relationship it seems like. Nobody should feel like a relationship is a favor. Love is love and you should be in love if your going to get married. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! I don't think it wouldve worked out in the end. You feel so terrible because you thought you had your life completed, and all of a sudden you looked a little deeper and realized your getting yourself into a bigger mess. How heartbreaking! You will get over it, and you will thank yourself later for the devastating yet best decision you will ever make in your entire life.

I think she is interested but wants to build a strong friendship foundation first. I obviously have no idea about the previous relationship she had with you. But I think she wants to be around or she wouldnt call and she wouldnt wana hang out. Just take it slow, and give her time to feel comfortable. Shes jumping from the known to the unknown and back to the known. Just dont come on too strong, shes not too sure about you yet. Treat her like a queen, love her with all u have, but keep ur distance. itll turn out great.

COMMUNICATE!! All I can say is you should definitely talk to her about what you are hearing and how you feel too. Explain to her that you would enjoy to try to have something with her and to see if you two can work that direction. Communication is the key factor to everything

I think that flirting has been upgraded so much in this era in life. Flirting is supposed to be fun a ego boosting. But however, somewhere along a road called life, everybody made it seem to be a big deal. But really all it is is two people enjoying each other. Dont let him take advantage of you though. But you might be thinking its more than he means it because you feel for him more and you almost WANT it to be like that. Just play along! Enjoy it, don't expect more quite yet. Everybody really thinks flirting is the first step to a relationship. But no, its the last step to a friendship.

Exercise Exercise! My brother was very overweight and he ended up losing about 150 pounds just by stopping the junk food, eating the healthy food, and WORKING OUT! He looks so great, he was above 300 pounds, now he is about 6 foot 180 lbs. He looks GOOD! Even if you just go for a walk a day or something, anything to get your body pumping harder. Maybe go to a local gym, the regular lifters and stuff will help you a lot and tell you some reps to follow. CONGRATULATIONS! Keep up the good work

This seems to be something that is totally based on what you want and how you are feeling. Nobody can make the decision for you. However, I sure think it is a lot to ask of you to have you move all the way up there to live with him. For example, would he do it for you? I doubt he would because of everything he has going for himself. And this is when your feelings come into factor. Yes you may see a future with him and you love him, but probably the more deeper question is do you see happiness in another state, with him? I think that it seems like a pretty chunk of a step. You two are having a long distance relationship and now all of a sudden your going to live together. Don't you think that you should try just visiting for a weekend or two a little bit and see what it will be like before you take the jump. This is just my advice! Good luck!

Not communicating is definitely a big deal if you intend on having a strong bond. I think that you should explain to him how you feel. Tell him how inside you are wondering how he's feeling and it really bothers you that he can't express himself clearly. Explain that you won't be mad by whatever he has to say, because maybe since you two are fighting over petty stuff he thinks that you'll be upset by his feelings. Let him know that you need to know because you need a direction leadway onto what is to become of you two. It seems like you two are missing the key factor in a relationship. I suggest if he can't give you some type of leadway, you need to give him some time. And explain that you are going to leave for a week because you think he needs some time to think over what he feels and wants out of what you two have. Explain that he is not giving you any advice onto how to make things better and without it, you two as a couple will never survive. Weigh out the outcomes of your guys' relationship and see if maybe you are pushing too hard, maybe be calm and nonchalantly mention something while u two are just cuddling on the couch. Maybe approach it differently then you have in the past, you never know what might come out of it. Obviously what you are doing now isn't working, try something new! I wish you the best of luck! =)

To anybody with advice~

Today I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I was feeling overwhelmed with everything going on. A year ago his mom passed away and his toddler brother (2 years old) is within a joint custody with him. I know he needs me, and Im not going away at least as a friend. I just feel like mommy, in fact, im even called it sometimes. Im only 17, come on, how am i supposed to take all this weight? Anyways, he was pretty cool about me needing time and stuff. But it's so hard not to hug him, hold his hand, or kiss him. And I am aware that I am not able to do these things or I will send mixed messages. How do i break these routines? I am so used to him that I am scared to be without him. And he keeps telling me that he wants me to be happy and he's scared that he's going to lose me forever. I know he really was trying to work on things before i ended it, but no matter what he did, my feelings weren't changing. I felt so unfair because he was trying so hard and I wasn't giving anything back. I FEEL SO BAD! I love him, but I feel so caged up and I just need some time out. He isn't making a big deal out of anything, and he even took me to the movies tonight after all the tears. I know he's showing me that he's still here and I am doing the same, but I am just so used to everything. I'm scared he will find somebody new during the time that I need, I'm almost scared I might find somebody too. I don't have anybody in mind, but now that we won't be together as much, I'm afraid I'll look for back up. I tend to be a clingy dependent person and that's what Im trying to work on. I want to be a single person, not 2 for 1 anymore. I have been in a relationship for as long as I remember. Can anybody give me some advice to breaking away and being satisfied just being by myself? Is it normal to be scared even though I'm the one that ended things? I feel so insensitive and selfish right now. I want to be his friend and be around, but is it too soon? We didn't break because of fighting or anything, neither of us ever did anything wrong to each other. Just because I felt weighed down and wanted to be free. But now that I'm free, I don't know how to act. Will he be mad if I start hanging out with other people? Should I even attempt to do so? Maybe it would make me realize how important he is or if what we're feeling is even real. I'm young, in love, but confused about it. ANY advice whatsoever and as much as possible would be EXTREMELY appreciated, I need as much as i can get! Thanks for taking time for me!

You are just scared to be alone, scared of change. You are so used to him liek you are used to a daily routine. He was always there and it will be different for him not to be. But maybe it will be better off, it will hurt, but you're strong and you'll be okay. Just hang in there, good luck, and my prayers are with you!

I encourage you to talk to your friend. It seems as if she is having some extreme emotions inside and by having them she is tearing apart others lives. I know you are her friend and it's hard for you to see what shes' doing, but if you are so close to her maybe you can reach her heart. Let her know what she's doing to others along with herself. I suggest that you just bring the obvious to her eyes and let her deal with it. If it was my position, I'd stay away from that situation, from that type of people

Although I am not married, in fact, far from it, my mom went through the exact thing. Not even two months ago she was having a problem with my father and porno websites. She was extremely devastated and also had the lacking trust within her. At first, she tried to talk to my father about it but he had the same rotten attitude as your husband does. After he tried to put everything back on her rather then taking his own punishments and guilts, she asked him to leave until he could make up his mind about choosing between her and her kids (us) or his "habits". He left for two days, and came back over with roses and dinner for my mom. Ever since then, my dad has given up all his free time to spend time watching movies with her and spend time with her. Of course they have their moments with arguments, but they are definitely happier now than I have saw them in years. I think you should give him a choice and tell him that it isn't YOUR problem it OBVIOUSLY is his because it isn't you on the internet and it isn't you with another man. Do NOT take the blame for this. You have done nothing wrong, men in this world are just followers and most want to be like all the other guys. And it's not something they should be proud of. I suggest you give him a choice, you and your daughter or him and his habits. Explain how his habits make you feel inside and suggest he leave for a night or two and think about it. If he loves you and your daughter, he will choose you guys over such petty sh** that he's putting you guys through. PLEASE don't take this upon your own shoulders, push it back on the deserving. And by the way, you can't expect the spark to always be there when you are too worried about everything else. The spark doesn't exist if your mind isn't set on it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you can be strong enough to take action and make it result positively for yourself, your daughter, and your family as a unity. I know it must be hard! Good luck!

Sounds like a good idea to me. I think you should call her and let her know that you have been thinking about what you did to make things go wrong and ask her if you can have a second shot at being friends, just friends! =) GREAT idea! and if she shuts you down, oh well. At least you wont live forever wondering what if.

Let me tell you what, that is a totally normal reaction after all you have been through to not trust. But no, it is not fair to judge all guys by just the one. Its fair to be scared, but you have to pick yourself back up and try again. Its better to feel love and lose it then to never feel it at all, even though right now it is probably hard to believe that. You have to open your eyes, I PROMISE there are good guys out there that won't hurt you. And it is possible for you to be happy alone, but I think that everybody is happier when they have somebody to share their happiness with. Don't commit, just go on dates and get to know some guys before making any semi permanent moves. Dont let cupid shoot you up and drop you, show your strength, give some hope, and move on!!! You arent going to be satisfied until you do. And satisfaction with your life will only come with time. Give yourself some time, give others some of your time, and see how things work out! Good luck =)

You have to talk talk talk talk to him. You arent going to get anywhere by keeping exactly how you are feeling locked up inside or written on the internet. He NEEDS to know that you had no intentions on completely ending things and you were just getting worried about what was going on between the two of you. Let him know that you still want to talk if he is comfortable by it. Make a move girl!

It seems to be that you really need to go see him, sit down, and have a long deep discussion with him. He's definitely sending you mixed messages. And from my point of view, I know she's your best friend, but I would look a little deeper into that. If they are both saying you're making things up, they must be confiding in each other. Perhaps there is something going on? I find it hard to believe that ANY best friend would be just as close to you as she is to your ex boyfriend unless there is something deeper going on in there. But that's up to you because I know that heartache and you would TRY to be oblivious if something like that was going on just so you wouldnt know. I totally would be confused so how you are feeling is nothing unusual. Tell him exactly how you feel and hwo you don't understand how he wants you to move on if he keeps telling you to come back. Thats all I can say, sorry I dont have much advice, good luck!

All I really have to say is it seems that you are being extremely insensitive. I understand that you want a break and everything but it also seems that she is overwhelmed. I think she is trying harder than you are willing to accept she is. Honestly, you need to start looking at it from her perspective rather than just yours. She is probably feeling stressed too. You need to be gentle with her if you want to tell her to back off. But remember its back off not **** off.

Dear viewers, I really need some help!! I have been dating this guy named Michael for about two years now. This isn't my first long term relationship because I had another two year relationship before him. But anyways, I am really unhappy with the outcomes. I have been trying to wait it out but it seems I only am hurting more the longer i wait. He is really trying to make things better, but I can't help the way Im feeling. I just want to be friends and I tell him that. However, he always guilt trips me in some way to stay and then I feel like I should stay. You see, he lost his mom last year and had to move in with his dad. In that time, he also lost his two year old brother because he had a different father and he has joint custody for him where he gets him 5 days a month. After this all happened, I began to feel a whole lot of overwhelming responsibility and I basically became a mother....at the age of 17. He really wants to be with me and says that he IS happy and he feels there is nothing wrong. He doesn't understand that I just want to be friends. And honestly, I really do want to be friends. But nothing more and nothing less. I am wrapped up so much in this cob web I can see no way out. He wants to be with me forever, and at first I thought I did too. I have begun thinking about other guys and what it would "be like with them" and I know that's a bad sign. He is just SOOOO clingy. He is with me from morning til night, watching my every move. And when he isn't with me, he calls me ALL the time. For example, I went to go get my toenails done, and he didn't know where I was.. I missed 19 calls in 45 minutes. And he is SO extremely jealous of every guy, even his best friend that is dating my best friend!! If he so much as lends me his sweatshirt when im cold, Michael FREAKS out. I can't talk to anybody on the phone, I can't hang out if he's not there, SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME GET OUT OF THE MESS IVE CREATED FOR MYSELF!