ShawnJesper

When your not yourself, people know. You cant really fake what you dont have. Sometimes when your yourself, you might not even get the girl. Thats just the way it is sometimes. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. There's really nothing you can do but be yourself and hope that both of you are compatible when it comes to a releationships. Dont always pay. Makes it look needy. Have her pay sometimes. You shouldnt have to pay for everything all the time. And do not always say yes. Be busy sometimes. Trust me i know. I screwed up so many dates just by beeing always there and too nice. Women get bored really fast when there's no mystery or a challenge. And most important, be confident. Dont be affraid to take charge. Now if i could only take my own advice when i fall for a girl, id be ok.

Ya, but regardless to her im a friend. So either way, i'm screwed.

Ya, there usually is something or there isnt. People can grow on you with time, but thats different. Love is there, or it isnt.

It's a different love with friends. Im IN LOVE with her. Do you know what that feels like? To see a person every day, be completely in love with her and knowing you can never get her. Do you know how much that hurts? Just seeing her with another guy just kills me inside. How my supposed to be her friend? If you felt what i feel right now, you know why i cant be around her. It's killing me. But she wants to remain friends. Why must this be so bloody hard!

Ya. But you cant be friends with someone you love. You just cant. I mean, ill try. Im not gonna start hating her or anything. But seeing her is just gonna bring those feelings back and i cant go through that.

I dont get how there's a time limit? 7 months, 12 months. Wha..? Werent there feelings to begin with?

At least theres love both ways, mine was one way.

Hey there. Ok so here goes. I met my firend at work and when i first met her, i didnt really feel anything for her. She invited me out for drinks, but i wasnt interrested. She was in between relationships. So i blew her off. Not in a bad way mind you, i just never brought it up again. But sircumstances led to friendship. She went back to her boyfirend and i keep beeing her friend. Working every day with her, i became close to her. Not close enough for her to consider me her best firend, but a friend nontheless. Then it happened. To be quite honest, i dunno how i feel in love with her. I think it was because of what someone else mentioned. This guy walked into our store and was blown away by her. He was freaking out when he saw her. He kept mentionning how beautiful she was, etc.. When the day finnally finished i looked at her and stated to think.....he's right, she is amazing. His reation made me realise how absolutely amazing she was. It woke me up so to speak. So i decided to try something. Late, but better late than never. I asked her to come out with me. Lunch. She obviously truned me down, stating that she didnt want to feel like she was cheating on her boyfirend. And im a nice guy so i didnt try to force it. I get it. Let me say this about her, shes the kind of person that gets scared when she has to face someone with honesty. I always told her, i want you to be honest with me. And after time, she started to do so. Shes actually very honest with me now. But not totally. Anyways, after some time, she and her boyfriend broke up. And out of the blue, about a week after breaking up with her ex, she calls me. Says she wants to have that lunch now. So me, not knowing she had broken up, i reluctantly accepted. I knew something was up. So i got to her place that day of the lunch to pick her up. While waiting in her appartment, she tells be if i heard. I aksed about what? She says me and ..... broke up. So i said great, this is my chance. Then she says "oh, i met someone". That left me absolutely crushed. I was lost, confused, frustrated, all of it. I asked myself why in the hell are you calling me??? Why did you call me for lunch? I dont get it?? This was all in my head of course. Anyways, needless to say i was completely confused and very angry. Anyways long story short, she left the city. Had to go home for the summer. Shes still seeing this new guy, which she tells me it's not serious. So yesterday i came out with it. I told her everything. i want to be with her. She replied that she valued my friendship and that she was sad that she couldnt be the woman i wanted her to be. Needless to say, even tho i went out yesterday to get her out of my mind, im crushed. Im very down. Im so in love with this girl and knowing what she said just kiils me inside. Im really fed up with Love. This is the second time i fall for someone that doesnt feel the same way and im fed up of it. Is there anything i can so to.............i dunno, get over it. Did i do something wrong? Im just so god daned fed up of beeing the one who gets the broken hearth.