SweetDreams

Well one of my good friends has told me that he loves me and that he really wants to go out with me *lets call him A*. I was SHOCKED becoz i didn't see this coming at all!(its like the ones i wanna get with dont notice but the guys im kool with wanna get with me! ) I really think A is into me and im his DREAM GIRL...for example i will b sitting in class and he will be looking at me not paying attention to his work and say something like "u r so sexy" out of nowhere! and then its like he'll get mezmerized and he'll sit there staring!! and sometimes he'll even bend over and smell my shirt and say something like "u smell really good" lol its pretty funny but its all kinda weird to me i did not know he liked me like this...i feel really bad coz its like he wont move on until i get with him he really wants to be with me! he has tried to get a gf 2 times but he has still been saying i love you and everything like he doesnt even have a gf! he sometimes writes me letters like he loves me and he just wants me to be his girl and he wants to be with me soo badly...I DONT KNOW WUT TO DO! he has recently got a gf and i am happy but its like hes doing it to make me jealous so that i'll go out with him i dont kno about going out with him becoz FIRSTLY hes either really serious or really *playful* and its at the WRONG TIMES...SECONDLY its becoz we are not the same race and i will get PHYSICALLY HURT by guys at my skool like for example (A got his skool pictures and i wore one of them on my shirt just 2 joke around and this other guy *my race* -came up 2 me saying wut the hell take his f*ckin picture off ur shirt do u like him or something y dont u go out with someone like me or like us (US meaning our race)-....i do not know what to do anymore i feel so bad for him and i want him to get over me becoz i dont see us ever being together becoz of this all... ...hes a nice guy and everything i just dont know what to do....i sometimes do find myself thinking about him like y didnt he call me yet *he usually calls everyday*..and i do like him should i tell him..if i do he will probabbly misunderstand me coz i am not ready to go out with him..if i dont tell him he will still go on sad and feeling like the one girl he truly loves does not love him back....he says he is obsessed with me and he will never get over me...is this obsessiveness? (or wutever the word is)... i find it sweet that he tells me i am pretty it makes me feel really good about myself..he makes me happy...i talk to him about almost ANYTHING i am soo comfortable with him..maybe just too comfortable.. teachers even say we should be an *item* coz were always together ...i just dont kno if i can go out with him he is like my bestfriend...WUT SHOULD I DO!?!..HELP!! *thanx in advance*

I am a virgin and I do have a bf that i have been with for about 5 months. He is a virgin also and we both agree on have sex when the time is right. We talk about it often and thats no problem. I am just really scared that when I think im ready and he thinks he is ready i will chicken out. I love my boyfriend and all but I am a very shy person I dont know if i can do it. My worst fear is that i will have sex with him and then we end up breaking up. People tell me that it isnt such a big deal after it is done but I have always thought of it as being a big deal even though I have never had sex. I would hate to think that im the only person that is thinking like this. I have lately been having these urges to have sex but I cover it up with the excuse that I am a growing teen and its just my raging hormones. I really don't want to feel dirty after having sex with him like he was the wrong guy or something I FEEL SO WEIRD ..Should I just wait till marriage???What if my partner doesnt want to??? Another thing i maybe should add was that when I was 11 my dads gf's son which was 16 at the time made me touch his private parts and I was too scared // shocked to stop him coz i never been in a situation like that and everytime I went over to his house he would make me climb on top of him or he would climb on top of me and I was so scared I didnt know what to do...but after a while I felt used and I regreted it all!!....would this experience maybe contribute to my feelings toward sex? HELP!! *thanx in advance*