buzz bee

hey there... having a slight problem wit this guy i like and im pretty sure that he likes me too... problem is that hes a land developer and is helping me to build my first house.... mixing business with pleasure... is it such a good idea? hes 28 and im only 23... and feel like im being such a child hes shown hes interested but im so shy that he now thinks that im not interested... anyone know of any sure fire ways to get over shyness? i even get nervous answering the phone when he calls... ive resorted to sms'ing and now hes confused... im not surprised im giving him such mixed signals the poor guy prolly doesnt know whats going on. can anyone help? how can i get over my nerves? i really like this guy.. he makes me smile tho whenever he tells me that hes been thinking about me all i say is thats nice... HELP!! im being an idiot

honey how old is your boyfriend? dont ever let anyone pressure you into sleeping with them, if your not ready tell him that and if he doesnt respect your decision do you still want to be with him anyway? you still so young and sex complicates a relationship so much...... tell him how you feel, tell him your not ready and dont let him pressure you

thanks so much playbrat.. it helps to know that others out there think im doing well its never easy and it still hurts sometimes but its better than the alternative... will keep you posted and thanks again

hey there.... well im getting there.. went overseas for three weeks and didnt really think fo him at all however he sent me an email the other day telling me that he has a new girlfriend (after only two months of us being apart) and that they are very happy together this email helped me to see what a child he really is and its helping me to move on, i know he is trying to hurt me and im not going to let him anymore... im starting to see him for the person he really is and although i miss him he is no longer the same person, i miss someone who no longer exisits! its hard but im managing!! havent talked to him or contacted him for like 6 weeks now and im not planning on having any contact... i didnt respond to the email and its going to stay that way... im getting stronger

thank you so much i really do appreciate it and will probably take you up on the offer, youve been such a help and my saviour thru some of this... how did you get to be so wise? damn damn damn... he just called my work phone - i dont have caller id on it! felt like he did it just to gloat (hes finally bought a car) LIKE I CARE!! sorry im so angry - i told him that i was really busy and messaged him after telling him to leave me alone and to give me time and space told him that just beacuse hes moved on doesnt mean that im not still hurting.... hes so arrogant!!!

so basically he is doing it because all tho he doesnt want to be with me he doesnt want to let me go just yet and doesnt want me to move on? thats a little unfair dont you think... that he can move on and start dating again (even tho i know these poor girls are nothing more than 'rebound') but he wont give me the same opporunity... i dont want anyone at the moment... all i want is to heal and move on with my life... find someone who actually wants to be with me and doesnt play all these stupid games... i am going to keep ignoring the calls, the messages and anything else he wants to throw at me - he did this, he decided this is what he wants and now he has to live with his decision (sound evil dont i ) but i cant go back to being that mess that i was a few weeks ago... im getting better and i dont want to give him the opporunity to hurt me again

yeh - i do have caller id and thats why im not answering the phone - he wont call the home phone cos ive moved back in with my parents since this has all happened and the last thing he will want to do is talk to either one of them after wat hes done i just dont see why he is doing this!! why wont he just let me move on? after all its what he said he wanted... he broke up with me... i know that he wants to be friends again eventually but he has to realise that i need time to heal and move on!! i cant just switch off my feelings like he has!!! its so frustrating!!! and his excuses for calling are almost pathetic...

i am being strong... actually its not so much that im being strong but rather i dont want to talk to him at the moment... im not sure when i will want to again... or if i even will... ive lost alot of respect for him and am trying to move on, ive realised he isnt the person now that he was when we first started seeing each other and that he will never be that person again. Im not contacting him and havent for over 3 weeks now and its helping.. i am healing and starting to feel better but every time the phone rings and its his number my heart starts beating rapidly again and it feels like its in my throat thats how i know im not over him and thats why i let the phone ring out and dont answer. its amazing.... i havent contacted him for 3 weeks and now hes starting to contact me - he tried to ring me 5 times last nite - i actually had to turn my phone off and he left like 2 text messages.... i stop contacting him all together - no messages, no calls, no emails, no seeing each other and suddenly he has tried to contact me about 10 times so far... each time making up and excuse about wanting to get something off me - this time its my photos from our overseas trip.... doesnt he realise that i need time to heal? that im not going anywhere and why cant he wait a couple of months to ask for these things? its not like im walking out of his life for ever... just long enough for me to get over him and move on.... why have the tables turned? is he really just after his stuff? or is he still playing games with me??

i almost didnt answer it when his work munber came up on my mobile - but then i gave in... wish i hadnt.. its just made me miss him again... why do people do that? if someone is getting on with their life and healing why does the other person stick their nose in again????

he called me today - 10 days after i instituted no contact and almost a month since ive seen him face to face he called me looking for his staff discount card... when i told him that id drop it at his work after hed finished his shift he told me no hurry... then told me to have a good one..... i told him i would and the entire conversation lasted about 50 seconds.... why did he call if there was no rush on the card? why didnt he leave me alone for longer??

i know now i just need to wrok on not loving him

sweet and innocent and nieve cos i still think that in a few years we will try again and it will be different and work.... which is just a silly idea! but i cant help it

im slowly getting better but it still hurts... its not that i want to move on but hes making it pretty clear i dont have any other option - i still love him but dont think id take him back if he came crawling back into my life tomorrow - he has hurt me, im realising that i am better off without him for now but that doesnt stop the pain and doesnt stop me from loving him unfortunately

hopefully - i just dont see it yet - i really believe i will always be holding out for him, i do truly love him

i have let go - or am in the process of at least and it hurts... but i have no other choice at the moment i see that... it just hurts that something so beautiful turned so sour so quicky without either of us realising.... i dont think ill ever be able to trust him with my heart again..... i dont see him changing his mind, he truly is already moving on and thats why i have to too and it hurts because im the one that stuffed up and pushed him away with my actions