Motley_Crue

Thanks for trying. If something comes to mind, please let me know. Also if others have good idea, I would more than welcome it.

I really appreciate your help so dont think that you are not helping. Restaurant is not great because we always go there, I want this to be something special, something romantic that most guys wouldnt even think of. The problem is even I cant think of it lol. I think I would know how to behave after. We are both 25 by the way.

Bowling would be a great idea but we already did that last week. Plus it can be something friends may do. I need a place to bring her and then yeah after figure out how to go about saying I want to be more.

A girl who is a good friend of mine but I want her to be more is having a birthday. Perhaps this could be a good oppurtunity for me to show her that we could be more than friends. Does anyone have any good ideas? I appreciate any input. Thanks

Swedace congradulations on taking the initiative and asking the guy you are interested out instead of just sitting back keep wondering what he feels. I can only speak as a guy for what I would do but I think I am a fairly good representative of the guy population. If a girl asked me that we should get a coffee sometime and I was interested, my answer would probably be okay when. When I get a girl's phone number and I am interested, I make it a rule to wait for a few days and call on the third day. That shows that I got other plans too but at the same time I am interested. The fact that he hasnt called in four days is not the greatest sign but he still may. If he doesn't call then if this guy is really worth it for you then you can call him and ask him when he would be free and then ask if you two should go and get a coffee together then. I hope it works out but no matter what happens I think it is great how you stepped up and asked him out. With every experience things get easier.

Yeah it is a possibility. Take today as an instance. She emailed me today just to say she enjoyed playing golf with me yesterday and the whole golf thing was her idea and she invited me. Usually it is her that makes up things to do and I just go along.

True but maybe she is shy plus I screwed up probably by bringing it up drunk. Perhaps I should of kissed her out of the blue or behaved more romantically or something.

Does anyone else agree as well or is there something I can try?

Are you sure things are that bleak? Then why does she want to spend time with me?

Well today I got drunk and I was like why dont u go for a guy like me? And she said she has been hurt before and lets be friends because it is more long lasting. Then she changed the conversation.

I have been going to clubs and pubs etc with this girl as friends but I want it to be more. She thinks of us as friends. What should I do? Help please!

I don't I just dislike talking on the phone in general plus she may feel uncomfortable if she lives with her parents and sibblings to have an almost stranger phone her (example: uncomfortable questions).

Do you think it is a bad idea to just ask her out? Is getting her number a better idea?

Well chances are I am not going to see this girl I talked to only a couple of times. I do have an email address. Should I ask her out? What should I say? Where should I take her? I barely know her.

One would think at 25 I would have this figured out but apperantly not. I like this girl who is in my co-ed intramural indoor university soccer league. We are on different teams but we talk and I want to get to know her more. Should I ask her to some restaurant after the game, ask for her number or what? I would appreciate any suggestions. Thanks.

The whole world dances But I am hiding inside my fences Sad because I dont know where you are I am spending my time in dreamland I reach out for your hand We are together again The dawn fell upon us Oh joy, oh bliss then oh bust I wake up alone

I hope so. Life is unpredictable You've been very helpful, could I perhaps give you an advice on something?

Good point but tough to say. Most have ben late teens or early 20s and perhaps were not ready for a mature relationship. Maybe now that I am finished with university my luck will change. I don't know. I think I am a friendly understanding person with some good things to offer. I hope someone will appreciate that besides friends and family and other uneligable for dating people.

That is true lol I just meant that she was a potentially good partner for me. I just ended another relationship because that girl could not fully appreciate me. I am 25 and I want a serious relationship. I guess it is not to be so far. All the girls I date end up being stupid.

Acctually she was kinda like that then too. Well that is too bad, I am all alone yet again. Thanks for the advices.

Thanks for your post. It is a reasonable one. Do yo think that if I emailed her telling her that I want to be perhaps more it may change anything?

Hello, I need some advice please. This girl has managed to puzzle me for years. I met her at university and we studied together very often. I wanted it to go somewhere but I never really said. Then she left college and stopped returning my emails. I moved on but out of the blue she emailed me a long friendly email. So we meet up and it went well she even hugged me and said she would email next week. Now 2 weeks went by and she does not email, this is very much like her to do this. Why is she doing that? Where is her mind at? I did not tell her to email me, she said she would so she should I think. Why is this such a pattern with her? Is she just self observed? Should I email her that I am disappointed that she did not email. Should I say that I want to be more with her?