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I was very reclusive. I don't handle depression well - it was really bad. I cut myself off from people.

Besides the meds issue, what can I tell him so that he can feel more supported?

I think it should be a psychiatrist as he mentioned something about getting meds. Or to see what needs to be updated.

No he doesn't. I think he's going to see a therapist sometime in the next couple of months. We are currently in lockdown so it doesn't help things lol. It hasn't been easy. But I really love him and I don't want to give up on this. He makes me very happy and is very special to me.

I had two periods of depression that lasted around 1.5 yrs each time. What makes it that different? Feeling wise.

I have a full life and fortunately I've never been the clingy type haha. I dunno if he has bipolar, but his moods must fluctuate more than mine. Besides these problems he's wonderful. These things do not take away how great of a guy he is. I have been giving him some space.

Did you know someone with depression? I've had depression but that was more breakup induced (cheating etc) so it's different isn't it.

He has anxiety too. Lol it's funny because he always seemed soo confident and outgoing with me. He's actually in management and is one of those guys that was popular in school. I didn't expect things to be like this, but now things are how they are. 😞

I don't want it to be make it a thing where he has to be one way. He says it's this period that's been especially bad. That it hasn't been as serious since his early 20's (he's late 20's atm). I just want to be there for him and not force him. I already told him I'm here if he needs me.

I know, I just wanted to know what can I do to be there for him? He has ADHD so takes meds for that (though personally I think I have a mild form of that too lol, but I don't need meds). He says the depression meds mutes his personality and he doesn't feel himself when he's on it. He's normally an extremely charismatic and hilarious guy, so dunno what the meds actually does? I'm not trying to change him, I just wanted to make things easier for him.

My boyfriend goes through periods of depression and is currently pushing me away. He says he's been like this ever since he was a kid and goes through phases. He has medication but he doesn't take it. He says this doesn't affect his feelings for me, that his feelings are still the same and that his behaviour has nothing to do with me. I have been trying to keep myself upbeat but despite the fact that I am quite an independent person, I can't help feeling hurt when he doesn't communicate the way he used to. It's been really hard. I love him. He's an amazing guy, we have a very strong connection and he has so many qualities I adore, I'm not going to just give up. This isn't a thing where I'm asking if I should walk away because that's not what I want. I wanted to ask for people that has clinical depression or have known people with it, what can I do to be there for him? What are some things I can do to make things easier. These days he says he spends a lot of energy trying to keep himself together. Any thoughts will be appreciated.

So I heard you cheated on me a few times during our past relationship. Screw you. I can't believe I wasted years of my life with you. Thank you for giving me more persisting issues. I f love it.

That's amazing, I'm sure you will be missed. It shows true dedication and commitment to stay in a company for that long, I really hope they send you off with a massive bonus!

Hey E. I was extremely shocked to see you add me. To say shocked would be an understatement. You wanting to video chat and our brief catch up made me really happy. I'm so glad you're doing so well these days. All those dreams of yours have all become reality. It's ironic the timing of it all but I'm really happy I got to talk to you. It still feels the same.

Hey E. Haven't messaged u in so long. For the longest time, I was chasing the feeling I used to have with you with everyone I met after. I never forgot how special you were to me and now that I met someone that reminds me of you so much it's kinda making me think of you again. I really hope you're happy these days, I know you decided to stay away to make it easier for both of us. Long distance doesn't work of course but regardless of the situation, I loved you. You changed my life and I'll always have a soft spot for you.

I thought about you yesterday and missed you. I am over you, I don't know what this is about. My heart hasn't warmed to anyone in a real substantial way in years-I really wish that could change. But it's not easy-you know how I am, too f- picky for my own good. For the past while, I have found myself losing interest instantaneously and I can't seem to help it. There's this song that always made me think of you, and I heard it yesterday. It brought back strong memories of how I used to feel about you. But it's been years, and noone else has really touched me in the same way. I really do wish to feel those strong, uninhibited emotions again. I have grown up so much since then, but what I felt for you was real. It was a very confusing few years for me back then but regardless of what went down, I did genuinely love you. I hope you're doing well B.

Hey you, Hope things are adjusting well. I dunno why I thought about you today but I dunno. Some part of me still remembers the love I felt for you in the past and I had this flashback of us laughing our heads off, drunk with elation as we swayed, hips touching down _________ street. Maybe this year I'll finally find someone else I can actually love again. That feeling has been gone for too long.

Be strong.

To ___ It was so nice catching up with you, you haven't changed at all and I'm so glad we can be friends now :). I still see you as a great guy and I'm so happy you're achieving those dreams of yours. To ___ Can't believe I passed you AGAIN last week. Dunno what is up with the creepily frequent run ins. Anyway, things are going great with life and I felt nothing. Hope you're well and good luck with things when you head overseas.

So you texted me again this early morning (6am is alittle too much don't you think?). You don't need to update me on when you're leaving. Just go already lol none of this is any of my concern. No I don't want to see you before you go-don't you get it? 20 messages later, no response from my side-I just don't care anymore so have a nice life and bye.

We nearly bumped into each other again. You were only like 10 seconds of steps away from me so it's getting super weirdly coincidental, almost like it couldn't have been a coincidence. Dunno why you messaged me again after bombarding my phone in the early hours week and a half ago, by now it should be more than clear I won't ever speak to you again. I really am completely over you, it's such a strange feeling. I still remember how I helpless I'd felt for so so so long...But that was once upon a time. Now it's all faded and I am completely free.

I think I may have passed u while on the coast today. Either way the guy really looked like you and was looking down. I would have assumed u were on a trip overseas. What a mad coincidence if it were you. Why did u message me again? This is what, the 7th time you have since I cut u off. I won't be replying. U and I both know this.

Hey boy who won't leave me be, I can finally finally say I'm completely and utterly 100% over you. About bloody time. Be blessed and see ya.

It's been a long time since we broke up and several months since I've cut you off completely. Checking my emails just then I saw you just emailed saying that you still loved me. That some part of you still wished we'd eventually get back together and that you were going to be leaving the country in the next few months for good. How I wish I had blocked your email address on my spam email and I don't know why, but...I just cried. I really did love you with all my heart. It was extremely hard to let you go. You were the greatest love of my life thus far, and made such an immense impact on me. I really do genuinely hope that you'll be happy in the future too, wherever you are.

To ____, I can't believe I wasted 3 of the best years of my life on you. Back then when I broke up with you, I wish you would have just let me go the first time.