Honeycomb8

...Just being a simp? Lol OP she clearly in every way possible is screaming that she doesn't give a sht about you and never have. Don't know why you're still staying. That unfortunately says way too much about who you are yourself. Guess what they say about men loving crazy women that treat them like crap is really true in this instance lol.

If she's unemployed she really shouldn't be demanding anything. Most people wouldn't want to date someone jobless, esp someone that only has cashier experience. She should def focus on building herself up. Everyone needs SOME source of income. The rich guys that don't care are looking for someone to fully control and there is no respect.

She needs to find her own way and depend on herself. Relying on someone to save her financially isn't the way to go. Unless she's stunning, then she can maybe hope for someone who will be reeled in by her looks.

Not true. A lot of successful and accomplished men want someone they can respect; an equal in many ways. A pretty vase can only distract you for so long. I've dated some very well rounded men (accomplished, very attractive with lots of charisma and talent). They have pretty much all said intelligence is what gets them. They need they can admire, not just a sexual object to keep them entertained.

A lot of people that buy a property would make sure they have only their names on the title and also have a relationship agreement/prenup in place so really...She won't be gaining anything.

Time to move on.

Heaps of people have ADD, it's really no big deal.

Money is important but isn't everything. You should just focus on your own career and finances. My salary is quite above the national average and on the side, I own 3 businesses. I also have my own property, a really decent stock portfolio and hold bitcurrency. I'm a 90's baby. I've pretty much always dated good quality professional men but I started to realise career ambition and intelligence isn't the only thing that's important- someone that has a kind heart is just as crucial. It's really hard to find that. If you're just focused on money, don't bother meeting.

Break up. Don't hang in limbo when he's already left emotionally.

He is basically emotionally cheating on you with her. Why do you put up with it? He's not a victim, he chooses to put her first and disrespect you!! I would have been gone yesterday. I know it's hard because you love him, but you need to love yourself. Do it for your future and for your mental health. He is not it. This situation makes me mad and very sad for you.

What are you doing? You're giving your bf way too much leeway. He is clearly emotionally attached to her, that's why he keeps in touch. Also, he knows what he's doing and keeping you as a secret suggests a lot. Break up with him -_-.

My bf has ADHD and he doesn't say mean things like that. He's just being an arse.

He's either not interested or not ready, either way it's a no go.

He cheated on someone for twenty years. What makes you think someone like that will do any better. That's his character and he will always be like this. I don't know what you were hoping for, but you have to work on your self esteem if this is something you actually feel attracted towards. He's literally bottom of the barrel scum. Also, it never ever pays to date someone who is recently out of a long term relationship. Even 4 months out of a 2 year relationship is risky.

What he's doing is wrong and clearly you know that too. He's gaslighting you and disrespecting both you and your daughter. It's time to divorce him.

Then get a divorce-you can then do what you want. Contacting an ex with less than innocent intentions when you're married is wrong. You are clearly emotionally attached to someone else, I don't think staying in the marriage is a good idea.

He sounds like he has way too many issues, is evasive, doesn't communicate effectively or well and seems very immature. I thought he was 22! Not 33, ***. You can do so much better. Also I want to add a real man does not act like this. You deserve a real man, who won't leave you confused. He's a loser and won't change, be glad he's set you free.

Your behaviour was TOO much and creepy. How long did you date for? A month max? He shouldn't have mentioned marriage or kids (red flag) and you should stay single for a good year and work on yourself. The way you freaked out and your thought process just isn't healthy. It is scary and would scare anyone - if a guy did that to me I'd run far away.

I wanted to add to this. I've been cheated on by two guys I've loved before. The first cheated on me through the whole relationship and I didn't find out until the end (we were together for 18 months). I wanted to end things but he manipulated the situation and threatened suicide (-_-), me being young and naive bought it and gave him another chance. That whole month I was a wreck- I was paranoid as hell and considered getting a key logger software. I ended things when I realised I was becoming a version of myself that was so unlike me, I didn't want to be that anymore. The second guy was someone I had dated for around 3 years. Not sure if he ever physically cheated but he emotionally cheated on me with at least two females. He would also flirt a lot. I became paranoid, hurt and angry. I felt very inadequate, like it was me that did something to cause it. I kept on feeling the urge to check his phone and he would change his password. I looked in his FB messages and found things that didn't make me feel good. I hated how I was filled with resentment and I suppressed a lot of anger. Eventually we ended things based on other reasons. You know what both of these exes shared in common? Both were insecure and did things for validation. Both gaslit me to no end. No, cheaters that cheat don't change. It's a selfishness issue and a lack of empathy thing. They won't change, believe me. Your bf is still cheating and has never stopped. Fortunately the last few years, I have been with ppl that have been very loyal. Staying with a lying cheater eats at you relentlessly. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

I was emotionally unavailable before and when someone is in that state they can't love someone else. It's been over a year, that is more than enough time to tell someone you love them. Hell, some ppl get married after a year. Don't be a placeholder, you're just wasting your time.

This guy doesn't respect or care about you. You don't trust him and rightly so. Without those three things, what's the point of developing a relationship further?

Ooh congrats 😍.

Block block block block block.

Move out. You can't help a parent if they refuse to remove themselves from the situation itself.

Unless he cheated who cares? It's his past. Lots of guys and women have casual sex during periods of their life. No biggy.