Thedude

I posted here before in a thing called "I hurt so much"..heres the link. link removed But heres what i wrote in it: "My girlfriend and I went out for a while and we loved each other more than anything. She was my first SERIOUS girlfriend and I her first boyfriend. We also made love for the first time to each other. We loved each other so much, and she said that without me, she wouldn't be able to move on. Then, for some strange reason *I* broke up with her and regreted every minute. She sobbed alot, and I stayed with her and spent the night with her for a few nights. Then we started to do sexual things together even though we weren't together. Two weeks later, she started to get better and she stopped calling me and she stopped telling me things. In this period I got drunk one night and hooked up with another girl, but I had no feelings for her. This is when I started to break down, and I cried, alot. I emailed her saying that it was so hard to think about her that I didn't want to be friends anymore. She came down the minute she got the email (Btw we are in college) and kicked everyone out and started yelling at me and telling me how much she hated me because I keep hurting her more and more. So the next night, I went over to her, and told her that I loved her, and I never stopped loving her, and that I wanted her back. She said "no, i dont think i can be in a serious relationship right now, but just give me some time" So I said ok..was heart broken, but still was waiting for an answer from her. One, two, three days go by, I'm still waiting. Then I find out, that the night I told her to be with me again, she kissed a guy she knew for only 2 days. Two days. She says she loved me, but 2 weeks later she is kissing another guy. So last night I walked to her once again, and i told her I knew everything, I knew that she was with another guy, and that she was kissing him. I told her that it was so wrong of her to tell me to wait for an answer while she pursues another guy. And I have never felt so hurt in my life. No matter how much I hurt her, she threw it back at me ten times. Anyways, last night she said that she is so confused and doesn't know what she wants. That she still loves me, but only sometimes is in love with me. We kept talking and I hugged her, didn't feel like she hugged back though. And she means the world to me, no matter how much she hurt me. And if all i can be with her is friends, then so be it. But close to her, is never close enough. What do I do? I can't concentrate on anything, all I think about is her. I want her back so badly and she says she doesn't really feel anything for this new gu, except when she kisses him she feels something. How do I get her back, how do I get back the love of my life?" And the main thing i got from you guys was LEAVE HER ALONE...well I didn't do that...and i posted again in that thread this: "CONCLUSION: She told me that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship with anybody right now. That everything happens for a reason, and that if we were meant to be that we would find our way back to each other. She held my hand and told me she wanted to remain my best friend forever, that she wanted to tell me everything all the time, and I her. And to be honest, I have never felt happier. And as I hugged her, even though I knew I wasn't hugging her as a boyfriend, that somehow I have surpassed that level of dating and have become a very close lifelong friend. And then we got up and we were both so happy and I bought her ice cream and she said she still expected me to think she was the prettiest girl ever (jokingly) and other things between us. And then I walked her back to her place, and even though I didn't get to go inside like I used to be able to, I felt like I had just gotten my Best Friend back. And right now, I couldn't ask to be happier. Finally she told me that our friendship would be so strong, that it comes before significant others, that if significant others had a problem with how close we are, that we would dump them (its cute). And we laughed and talked, and I feel like I truly got my best friend back. And the best part of it all, we still love each other in a way that only family can love one another. Thank you god, for making me happy, thank you god, for making her happy too. And thanks to all the people who replied." Well that was then. Here is what has happened since then. One day she decided to get back together with me (like maybe a week after she said we need to be best friends). I said ok and lets do it. We got back together and for her birthday i made her feel like a princess...limo rides, expensive restaurants, amazing sentimental gift, surprise party, all in the same day..spent over 600$ and im only 18 in college. She said she has falling back in love with me and wants to marry me. The next day she goes to talk to the guy she was kissing during our break up period, and she never calls me at all, and ignores my calls. She tells me she has feelings for him. Then she flies home and comes back and says "We need to break up". Now I feel like crap I can't think of anyone but her and to top it off she is officially dating that other guy she had feelings for (and now she says they have advanced very far sexually and emotionally with him). And sicne then (a week ago) she has been ignoring me compltely, except every now and then she IMs me or calls to say hi. Last night i think I made a serious fool of myself (mAybe i didnt) and told her i wanted permenant space. As in, don't want to ever talk to or see her again. I am asking for advice from you guys and I promise to listen this time. I want to know if there is a possibility for us getting back together, or us becoming friends, or if it is best to just move the hell on and forget her.

CONCLUSION: She told me that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship with anybody right now. That everything happens for a reason, and that if we were meant to be that we would find our way back to each other. She held my hand and told me she wanted to remain my best friend forever, that she wanted to tell me everything all the time, and I her. And to be honest, I have never felt happier. And as I hugged her, even though I knew I wasn't hugging her as a boyfriend, that somehow I have surpassed that level of dating and have become a very close lifelong friend. And then we got up and we were both so happy and I bought her ice cream and she said she still expected me to think she was the prettiest girl ever (jokingly) and other things between us. And then I walked her back to her place, and even though I didn't get to go inside like I used to be able to, I felt like I had just gotten my Best Friend back. And right now, I couldn't ask to be happier. Finally she told me that our friendship would be so strong, that it comes before significant others, that if significant others had a problem with how close we are, that we would dump them (its cute). And we laughed and talked, and I feel like I truly got my best friend back. And the best part of it all, we still love each other in a way that only family can love one another. Thank you god, for making me happy, thank you god, for making her happy too. And thanks to all the people who replied.

Ok but you guys aren't listening to me. Tonight we are going on a walk together. She is going to tell me how she feels. And IF she says that she can't be in a relationship with me, then do I back off even though she has said she wants me to stay with her and be her best friend? How should I act TONIGHT? Do I show her I care, do I play games with her and play slightly hard to get? Or do I make it obvious that I am completely head over heals for her? Do I tell her that I truly do love her more than anyone in the world? Maybe she wants to walk with me tonight only because she knows that she wants to tell me no. Maybe she has it in her mind that tonight all she wants to do is talk about how she only wants to be my friend. How do I act? and MOST importantly, what type of a mindset should I be going into this?

I didn't have sex, and yes she knows. But see the differences are #1 I was drunk #2 It was random. In her case she is seriously liking this guy, and it wasn't just a kiss because she was horney, it was because she felt something for him,he is replacing me. Now about today, can I still go on a walk with her?

But, I love her so much. I really do, and last night she said (right before I left) that she would call me today so we can go on a walk, just a walk together. And honestly I don't think I can function if she isn't around me somehow. What if she gets the impression that i too am confused and then decides that it woiuld be too hard to get back to me? I would regret all my life not doing all I can to be with her...

My girlfriend and I went out for a while and we loved each other more than anything. She was my first SERIOUS girlfriend and I her first boyfriend. We also made love for the first time to each other. We loved each other so much, and she said that without me, she wouldn't be able to move on. Then, for some strange reason *I* broke up with her and regreted every minute. She sobbed alot, and I stayed with her and spent the night with her for a few nights. Then we started to do sexual things together even though we weren't together. Two weeks later, she started to get better and she stopped calling me and she stopped telling me things. In this period I got drunk one night and hooked up with another girl, but I had no feelings for her. This is when I started to break down, and I cried, alot. I emailed her saying that it was so hard to think about her that I didn't want to be friends anymore. She came down the minute she got the email (Btw we are in college) and kicked everyone out and started yelling at me and telling me how much she hated me because I keep hurting her more and more. So the next night, I went over to her, and told her that I loved her, and I never stopped loving her, and that I wanted her back. She said "no, i dont think i can be in a serious relationship right now, but just give me some time" So I said ok..was heart broken, but still was waiting for an answer from her. One, two, three days go by, I'm still waiting. Then I find out, that the night I told her to be with me again, she kissed a guy she knew for only 2 days. Two days. She says she loved me, but 2 weeks later she is kissing another guy. So last night I walked to her once again, and i told her I knew everything, I knew that she was with another guy, and that she was kissing him. I told her that it was so wrong of her to tell me to wait for an answer while she pursues another guy. And I have never felt so hurt in my life. No matter how much I hurt her, she threw it back at me ten times. Anyways, last night she said that she is so confused and doesn't know what she wants. That she still loves me, but only sometimes is in love with me. We kept talking and I hugged her, didn't feel like she hugged back though. And she means the world to me, no matter how much she hurt me. And if all i can be with her is friends, then so be it. But close to her, is never close enough. What do I do? I can't concentrate on anything, all I think about is her. I want her back so badly and she says she doesn't really feel anything for this new gu, except when she kisses him she feels something. How do I get her back, how do I get back the love of my life?