pollyesther

Not sure where this should go but... The guy that I like just asked me to go with him to Winter Formal and taken completely by surprise, I said that I wasn't sure if I was gonna go yet... when I most likely will. He told me to think about it and well, things were a little bit awkward for the rest of the day (since we ARE friends and hang around basically the same people). I've never actually been asked out and I'm completely new to all of this. Even though I like him, and apparently vice versa, I just think that it'll make things kinda weird at this point... I would rather just go with a bunch of friends, no one really there 'together' and yeah, just go from there. How do I say this, still 'turning him down', and yet not make him think that I don't like him at all? Any advice?

"nice" flirting...how do you respond to it? I think I'm fine with the teasing and banter type... but how do you respond when the guy's being genuinely nice in a flirting way? eg. always helping you, defending you, turning things said into compliments, etc I just can't seem to figure out what to do without it being awkward

So very very confused... I'm 'pretty sure' that the guy I like likes me at least a little too. As I've posted before, we still don't talk much in person but i think its getting better. I THINK...but anyways... He starts chats with me online everyday, sometimes more than once a day...and YET, I always end up feeling like I'm carrying the whole conversation. He just doesn't say much...but I also get the feeling that he doesn't want the convo to end... He's not normally a very shy guy and he definitely isn't a boring one either. And so, I am confused. Extrememly so. Why's he keep starting chats if he doesn't talk? Any ideas on why? Please?

I agree with you on a few of those points but I simply see it as a part of growing up. All the relationships we have with other people shape who we are. I definitely don't agree with the people who constantly make themselves depressed because they can't find a gf/bf at my age (or younger) or those that flit from relationship to relationship, but I wouldn't say there isn't a point to it. The friends we make in elementary school are most likely not going to be those we keep for life...but they're still important, right? IMO, it's just one of the parts of life.

In general, he really isn't a shy person AT ALL but then yeah, I suppose i haven't really noticed the way he acts around girls that he might like before... Because i definitely cannot think of any other possible reason why he acts this way... Thanks for the feedback~

There's this guy who I am positive likes me at least a LITTLE. He starts chats with me online every single day, sometimes multiple times but he VERY RARELY talks to me in person. But whenever we're in the same room, he will always come over to me and he will always stand or sit next to Me. He always seems to be finding excuses for us to be touching in some way. For example, if we're at a friend's house watching movies, he'll be pressing against me, sharing a pillow, putting his leg against mine, sitting on the floor and leaning against my legs, etc. He only does this with me. We're not close enough friends yet for this to be just a normal 'friends' thing either. But he doesn't talk to me in person! He's not the super shy type and we're from the same circle of friends. We talk together when we're in a group but he doesn't seem to talk to me directly and yet, the minute we're home, he msgs me... help~can anybody see a reason for this? thanks in advance~

Corny, yes, but the most important thing IS to be able to be yourself~ just do that and especially if you're the outgoing and happy type like you say, the rest will follow naturally

Sorry...double post~ Good luck!

Try starting a conversation with her in person next time. It'd be easier to judge from her behavior if she really IS just being polite by talking to you. I have to admit, this sounds exactly like the way that i act. For me, i just suddenly turn quieter when I talk to the guy I like. It's possible she's the same way too...

Well...that's the thing. He was talking about ANOTHER girl.. I'm just really unsure. Half of the things I notice, I'm not sure whether I'm just making them into a big deal in my head..

I've known this one guy for the past three years and in those years, despite the fact that most of our friends are mutual friends and being in many of the same classes, I have never really talked to him. Suddenly, this summer he began talking to me online and has messaged me practically everyday since. He's always the one to initiate the conversations. Our conversations are usually not very long or involved but there's been a lot of times where I've thought that he was flirting. But then he's the type of guy who likes to jokingly flirt...so I've never been sure. Now that we're back at school though, we're always with the same people but we still don't talk much in person. It's true that we're more at ease and but we still mainly talk online. Whenever we're in a group together, he seems to always be right up close to me with our arms brushing each other's. But it's possible he unconsciously does this with everyone... There's been many little things but there's one that sticks out in my mind. Online, even when we've stopped talking for hours already, he always starts a new chat when he's about to leave to just say good night to me. Most people don't really do this, right? Many months ago, though, he gave in to people bothering him and said that if he were to like anyone, he would be most LIKELY to like one of my friends because "he talked to her the most". People always make fun of them together for this and at least I havent seen anything to think differently. But then i keep thinking that that was all before we started talking... And I don't know..many small things keep adding up to make me think he likes me. Am I reading too much into things? does he like me at all?