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I have no problems "lasting" a long time. How long?? I don't know I don't ever time myself but 20 minutes is not a big deal. I am 47 years old (don't really look it) and can tell you that many guys problems in this area (as well as ED) is because of poor health. Nutrition stinks. No exercise. The wrong exercise. No breathing control. No muscular control of the right muscles. Chinese medicine would say that the internal organs just kind press and sag and have no energy anymore. Yes, some guys have a problem with oversensitivity. If they do then..... breathing, visuazation, muscular control are all worth a try. Stress (all work and no play) is one sure way to get stuck in this rut. The right kind of exercise. Whole foods. Breathing exercises. "better control" of the sexual muscles have all worked for me for years. One of these days I will have to take a poll with my male clients and find out if I have helped them do the same. ( I design exercise and nutritionl programs). Once again if you go against nature you will eventually lose. If you go with it's flow and do the right things then you reap benefits. So to the ladies out there find a guy who takes better care of himself and you could be on the right track. Robert

After my divorce I was deppressed for a long time, but I had responsibilities to tend to. They kept me busy and it helped me to deal. Vent all you want on here. Anything you are feeling. We are here for you ok..>>>> Thanks for the support. My wife and I have had a long history. when we met I was 19 and she was just turning 18. We had some on and off time together until we got together in 1984. 7 years later we were married. It comes out to 24 years. A long time to try to get over. My family has been a big help and I will be taking my daughter to see them in Chicago at the end of the week. I try to keep busy but sometimes I can't even seem to think straight. I work for myself so that makes it tough. ON top of that I work one on one as a fitness/weight loss trainer. It is not always easy to be there for clients in spirit. I wish I could stop all the memories for a while. Night time is the roughest time. Laying in bed with my mind still turned on. Despair, guilt, sadness, anger, hurt, terror, frustration, low self esteem.... they all weave in and out. I wish I wouldn't idealize her so much. I still love her and there is nothing I can do about it, and even if there was and I got her back would anything be any different anyway? Probably not. At least on her end. Robert

Focusing on my daughter is tough sometimes. I often see my wife when I look at her. Right now dating is very far away in my mind. I feel so inadequte and scared and alone and hurt that who would want to be with me anyway? It feels like someone in my family has died. I feel like making myself loveable for anyone ever again is impossible. I did and said many things that drove (and are driving her) her further away. I feel so guilty for doing this to my daughter too. She seems to be fine with it but I still feel so very sad. I am tossing and turning, not able to sleep at 3 AM. I can't get the images out of my head. I try to remember the things that I was unhappy with but they don't seem like that big of a deal now. I never knew it could hurt so bad. Nightime is the worst. Just me and my thoughts and feelings. Terrible lonliness. What kind of nightmarish life have I built for myself? I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. I have gotten past the anger part and now the bad stuff is coming on like an express train. What do I do right now? Thanks.....Robert I'm sorry if I am not much help. Hope you feel better

Thanks for the reply. Writing down the wrong things is a good idea. I do have a therapist (group once a week) and can call him anytime. I guess I need to do more of that! Hope? I guess there is.... I feel so empty sometimes... I am also becoming very hard on myself..I wish I could be as emphatic as my wife is being. Its such a shame that it has to come to this. We were young and in love at one time. What the &**^ happens? Why did I do the things I did and then afterwards finally acknowledge them deeply? I feel and keep telling myself that I would do ANYTHING to make her happy. Now she wants half of the building money and I don't want to do it. I had dreams and plans for this place. I don't want to downsize and LOSE my family. So now the resentment is going to grow (she has already told me she thinks I am an a^&^&(( if I don't give her half. I feel trapped between a rock and a hard place. I feel love but also have to take care of me. It scares and worries me to death! Robert

My wife and I have been separated for 5 months I have been very unhappy during that time. We have a 9 year old daughter so we keep in contact with each other. WE have been married for almost 13 years and together for another 6 years before that. I have dated but not with much interest. I feel bad... I still love her and we are getting divorced. She has told me many times that she is NEVER getting back with me. She became quite jealous when she knew I was out on a date and by the next wek started going out with one of our daughter's best friends fathers. I am now way back to square one and desperate and devestated. I have lost control and begged and pleaded. Of course this just gets my wife more angry and why would she ever want to be with me anyway? I feel like I am in a room and the walls are closing in on me to crush me! I have sobbed like I never have sobbed before. My whole body shakes. I try so hard not to be needy but I am so scared....we are going to another mediation in three days. The worst part is that I started this whole thing a few years ago. I complained first. I didn't know if I was in love. After a few years of that and my bad spending habits.. she had had enough. Now after time apart I have realized I DO love her but it is too late! She doesn't care anymore. She has even told me she ia falling in love with this guy! I have undergone a big transformation in myself through this. I am a much more mature person and so very much want to keep my family together but she has no interest in it at all. How do I get over this woman so I do not let her hold me prisoner in my own mind? I told her that I love her and trust that she knows what decisiions to make for herself....but it was so very hard to say. I can't take the image of her with someone else. IT makes me culr up into a ball shake cry, sob and scream what have I done! PLease help me...I need to able to be there for my daughter as well for myself. Then pain is sometimes unbearable. Robert