Thank you for your comments, they are helpful. Actually, I see more and more characteristics that I like about her as she looses more weight. I'm not sure why its so important to me, perhaps because I want her to feel good and look good, and her self confidense shines through, which makes her more appealing. Its not only her weight, but all the stupid social implications and retarded ignorance that goes along with it. I'd rather have everything perfect and be happy rather than always know there is something still bothering me in the back of my mind. Women seem to care less about anything other than "true love", but I've heard of many people claiming they had true love only to find themselves heartbroken. Lets face it, love is BLIND.
Its hard to find someone perfect, so letting your mate know what you like/dislike will eable open communication and less ignorance. I guess its just how you put it, "if you don't do this then I won't love you is wrong", yes, but letting someone know how you honestly feel stops the circle of hurt feelings and subsequent break-ups.
Sunsheyen,
I think that you are making the right choice by going to the jym. I go with my gf, and it encourages her to keep it up. We've been going for about a year now, and it really pays off. We go every day, run a mile, then lift weights, it amazing how much better you look after working out for along period of time. The mornings are the best time to go because it speeds up your metabolism. As for dieting, we have found that you should eat a healthy diet that isn't too high in calories. Avoid regular pop, pastas, potatoes(french fries), high fat foods. Eating lots of protein helps, but don't do atkins, it works but its not good. If your watching your weight, you should loose on avaerge 2 pounds a week, sometimes 1, sometimes 3, but average 2. Let me know if you need any recipes or anything.