Nitemarehippy

I know that's a very big question...but,well,here's my situation: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years,and we've been living together for about 2...usually we have a great time together,we laugh,we're affectionate,we're always told we look really cute together,and we are definitely attracted to each other.But lately I'v ebeen wondering about a few things that he does....does he really love me? 1 First,I want us to get engaged,but he's not ready for that yet...this has been going on for some time and it's starting to bother me a bit...are we EVER going to do this?? 2 Everytime we have a fight,he calls me stupid,and once,he spat at me.I've asked him so many times not to call me that,I find it plain old MEAN and disrespectful!But he keeps doing it,and just says that everyone says stuff like that when they're mad..but I don't think he needs to be calling me stuff like that...am I overreacting?Does this mean he doesn' t really care about me? 3 He doesn't want to have kids with me.because he thinks we're too different to raise them together...OUCH!If he thinks we're so incompatible,why would he want to be with me? 4 Sometimes I just get a feeling he doesn't like me...he doesn't like my religion,the way I dress,or most of my opinions about stuff....again I just wonder why he's staying with me,and whether I should stay with him... or am I just insecure? I realize this is a long list of complaints,and a complicated issue,I guess,and I swear to god we usually have a good relationship...I just have these doubts about his feelings for me that I needed to "air out"...and I must confess I sometimes think if we're never going to get married or have children,what's the point??Well, I would really appreciate some advice... Love,Hilde from Norway!(-:

Thank you for your input,all of you!Well,yeah,I suppose it's just kind of built up over time... Getting some new hobbies sounds like a good idea! Hilde!

I'm really sad right now.I've had very low self esteem for many years.Some days it gets really bad and I hate myself and cry alot.Like today.This problem is really screwing up my life,because,of course,I'm totally depressed and I don't believe I could be or do anything "normal". But what I hate the most is the way this is affecting my relationship with my wonderful boyfriend.We've been together for a little over 2 years now,I live with him and I love him VERY much,but he's getting tired of my insecurity and everything that goes along with it....WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT THIS?!Appreciate any input from anyone... Hilde...

Well,I just wanted to say thank you for your replies!And aside from this religion business we really have a great relationship! And religion is not really a deal breaker for any of us,so I think it will be allright! Hilde!

I think I need some advice...I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now.There are many differences between us.One of the most important ones is religion.He's a Christian,and I'm Wicca.So tonight we were discussing religion (I will never EVER make that mistake again...) And he said he believed everyone that doesn't believe in Jesus would go to hell.So I asked him if he thought I would,and he said yes, probably.Well,I guess it makes sense,considering what he believes in,but for some reason it really hurt me to hear him say that.What does this mean for us?And if he loves me,and thinks that I'm going to hell,shouldn't he be trying to save me or something??I don't know,I just wanted to hear someones opinion on this... Hilde from Norway