Hi there guys,
Ok i will try to keep this short and simple even though to me it seems so damn complicated. For the last 4 months I have been seeing this girl who has a boyfriend and she lives with him. I met her at work and it started just as friends where we would go for hiking and just hang out. I have never dabbled with a girl who has a boyfriend before. I knew she was not happy in her current relationship as she told me. As time went by I could sense it was becoming a more than friends thing. When she used to have fights with him she would call me up to be a shoulder to cry on. We shared the same days off from work so we used to hang out and one day on a hike we kissed. Things kinda moved on from that and we slept together a few times, she would stay the night and then make an excuse to her boyfriend that she stayed at her mums house. I felt really bad to be honest about the whole thing but I started to like her more and more. She said she was feeling guilty about the whole thing but couldn't help herself. We tried to cool down until she sorted her stuff out, she was always saying she was gonna break up with him soon. So I stuck by, we cooled it a little, didnt make too much contact for about a month. But then things started moving again and we made a decision that we were gonna move out together. Then a week later she tells me that she is unsure if she wants to leave her boyfriend. Having enough of all this and being emotionally drained I said I have had enough and didnt want to play this game anymore. For a week we didnt speak I actually felt better for it in a weird way knowing where I stood. I even went out on a date with another girl. Then a girl from work had a birthday party and Kelly (the girl in question) got her to call me and invite me. I pretty much knew it was her doing and decided to go. I really like this girl and care for her, i knew it was a bad move to go but I thought she may have sorted her stuff out. We had a huge chat and she told me that she didnt think I could offer her the security that her boyfriend does and that I am a bit unstable (I have backpacked extensively around the world, just finished my uni degree and still live with my parents at the moment). I was willing to move out with her I told her I was commited to the cause. Anyway she stayed that night, her boyfriend kept ringing during the night, I felt so crap about it and decided to drop her home(that was last weekend). She still tried to assure me that she was gonna sort it all out. She came round a few days ago, we watched a movie, nothing much happened, didnt talk about it at all. Have not spoken to her since. I think its time to cut my losses and move on and then I really do like her. Not sure if there is a right answer to this dilemma but any thoughts woudl be very welcome. Sorry if the story is a tad long. Thanks
