I am needing some advice here.
If one of my girlfriends were to ask me this question, I would say "easy, just tell him that you don't want to be with him anymore and walk."
Easier said then done...
I have been living with this guy for three and a half years. Things moved really quickly and, essentially, we are still on our first date. He just never left my house!
One bad decision led to another, and in these almost four years, I have gone bankrupt (not entirely his fault, I will admit - but he certainly did not help), have gained LOTS of weight (thanks to my being unhappy and sitting on the couch watching T.V. with him all the time) and feel like I am starting from scratch again. This time, with him in tow.
I thought that I would grow to love him because my head said that it was a good match, but that did not happen. Now, I feel like I just have to get away from him and focus on me for a change.
Currently, we are living in his parent's basement, trying to save up money (no, not to buy a house like most couples - just to save enough money for a security deposit and first months rent!!) for the summer. I would bet dollars to donuts that come October 1, I will have money saved and he will have none.
I am not sure how to break up with him, and what to say...a part of me just wants to get up and get ready for work one day, then move while he is at work and just be a coward about the whole thing...but he deserves an explanation doesn't he??
We broke up (no, it is not a common thing for us) just before deciding to move to his parents and I have seen no changes in him - silly of me to expect a man to change, I know - and he managed to convince me to stay with him then. I am worried that at the end of the summer, when I go to leave him, he will try to SUCK me back into the relationship by saying all the right things, and then just never following through...
Advice anyone?