Sargon of Akkad

From prior experience, I have found certain signals to be more tell-tale signs than others. But what I'd really like here is if a women or two could confirm a couple of things for me. Suspicion/Thing I've Heard... 1) She'll talk to you first. I'm just wondering whether it is truthful that a girl, and one that you don't necessarily know extensively will talk to you first/ask a question to you first, if they are interested in you. I have heard that this can be the case, especially if it is consistent and is in conjunction with some of the following. 2) Eye Contact. I'm wondering how truthful the whole eye contact thing is. From what i've heard, and what i've experienced, its always seemed that the more eye contact a girl makes with you, the more interested they might be. This is doubly true when your not speaking to each other, but just kind of meet eyes. If a lady would confirm this for me, that'd be great. 3) Doesn't quite seem to know what to do with themself when they talk to you, or when they don't. I'm just wondering how much truth there really is to the statement that if a girl doesn't know what to do with themself, especially their hands (play with hair, stay too still, etc) then they might be interested. I've found this to be true, but I just wanna know if its coinsidence, or if its in anyway reliable. However, here comes the mixed signals. 1) Even though they may talk to you first in one place, in another you could sit next to each other and never say a word. 2) Basically the same situation as one. In one place you catch looks, in another, you don't. I just wonder if proximity could be an issue here? 3) I also wonder if the above two are really just an extension of that same kind of nervousness that is expressed in the signals (3)? So, if a woman could just explain some tell-tale signals, i'd be most favorably grateful.

Your like I was your age, or at least to some degree. If girls are telling you that they like you, they probably do, especially at your age. Realize, that they are taking quite a bold step by telling you that themself, or even having a friend do it. What I have realized over time, is the best thing to do is kind of...motivate yourself. You've got to find something to give you the confidence to just go ahead and ask. So here are what I would suggest: 1) Ask them if they'd just like to hang out sometime. 2) Ask them to a movie. 3) If they've got, or you do, some kind of athletic or other type of performance, offer to go, or ask if they are interested in coming to see you. Just remember the basics, be casual, be confident, give her a smile, a wink, and don't try and be someone else.

To further augment the advice given above I have the following basic tips to give. 1) Be confident. Know what your strengths are and follow them. If your good at talking with girls, do that, just talk about something. If your not, then just try and talk in such a way that lets her do the talking...no offense to the ladies here...but that has worked very well in my experience. 2) Choose something casual. Inviting her to a movie is a personal favorite of mine. 3) Most importantly though, just don't be anxious. Just be casual. As has been said above, the appeal of older guys is strong, its a instictive thing, so thats a plus.

It depends on the guy. In some cases, no offense to those this covers, but the guy just either isn't attractive enough, confident enough, or anything enough to get a girl. Simply put. However in other cases some guys just aren't that super-motivated purely by sex. To be a player, thats really what your doing. Your just going straight for the "prize" so to speak. Its really closer to a 50% split. One half would rather just go straight after that "prize" and thats it. Others really are looking for more. (In my ever so humble experience [note: I'm known for being a tad arrogant, so thats ironic] I've found the first 50% to be those most likely to be filling people's gas tanks in the near future...and for a while after that) Then there is the other 50% which could do that if they so wished, I mean they've got the looks, the knowledge, the confidence, but just aren't motivated for it. I don't know how that really helps, but it should be informative.