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Seriously this message board has helped me keep my sanity...you guys are great and should get paid...lol. I just hope i can find something or someone to help me keep my mind off her.....anyways, thanks guys

Wow, at first I was like dang thats just a flat out cruel post...........but I know your right, and maybe I needed to hear it like that...I guess my biggest problem is I do look for updates and continue to know everything she does and it kills me...I guess...when its over its over...Lookin at the way you talked to me, I dont want to be that kind of person. A lost puppy, pathetic, its not me...I honestly dont know If I can get over her...but something I got from your post and will do is not know whats shes doing and just live instead of sulking the day away. -thanks for taking your time to knock sense into me......

Hi again guys, I know I already got the right advice in other posting (what to do, i need help dealing with EX-girlfriend) and everyone said no dont be with her....but its so hard being with out her, because when we are together we were happy Thats why i dont understand how she can just blow me off and be with other guys so easily...2 and a half years, and we had problems but we loved each other. But now when I go to a club i cant even dance because I look around at the guys that are mean mugging the girls and trying to take them home...I think shes probablly having that done to her....and it affects everything, my work, my social life....Like the other day she lost her phone so I gave her my old one, got her a charger, and had it all activated. And she acted like she missed me and was gonna slow down, but she didnt not at all. Whenever she needs anything im there, but after I help her shes back to being rude to me. I just need to know if theres a certain way I should act to get her back or if its hopeless....I miss her so much, and she seems "in to" talking to me and hanging out with me except when shes with her friends she wont even answer her phone. Its like no matter how nice I am she just keeps partying hardcore and being with guys. She told me on the phone yesteray she loved me and still wanted to be with me, but just later because we fought to much. I said fine we can just be friends as long as she doesnt spend the night at a party with guys there anymore...and that same night she spent the night in a place with tons of guys there and she was all bared out....What am I suppose to do if I cant get her back, and I cant look at any other girl the same way....The biggest thing for me is I could give her all the space she needed if she wasnt geting bared out and passing out with dirty guys that would probablly pounce on her the first chance they got...if they already havent...: (...I really didnt think it would be this bad. And i dont think telling me to just move on will help...cause i cant. I think about her all the time...I know its pathetic but Ive never been in love before and I dont think that I will again.....Anyway, the point of this rambling mess is what do I do to get over her or what do I do to get her back...

Thank you guys for your reply...thanks Eatz. I really do think I need to leave her...but honestly it seems like shes the only girl I really liked that liked me back...most girls that like me i find reasons not to date them and most girls i really like find reasons not to date me...she was perrty much the first that I really liked and then had a long relationship with...but just so you know I told her last night I dont want to to talk anymore and I hope she makes the right descisions from now on, but unless something changes completely in both of us we cant be together again...and I told her if she needed to talk she could call me just not everyday.......I hope that I can move on and live up to what I said...........And guys I really...really appreciate the advise. I didnt expect to read something that made sense like that.

Hi, this is my first time posting on this site. I was kinda depressed, and just reading some posts on the net lookin for advise. But honestly nothing really seamed to fit my problem....Heres the Story: Me and this girl, ashley, started dating three years ago when I basically befriended her when she had a bad boy-friend and got her when they broke up. Through the course of the relationship we broke up several times.. And each time it seemed so easy for her to move on. Id say about 6 times we broke up and she dated guys every time got messed up and even had some bi-sexual issues....the last time she got drunk and had sex with 2 guys at the same time. And when everything cleared...I still took her back. Because I could never get over her, I could never heal no matter how long or who she was with or what she had did. After the last break up...the one with the two guy thing...things were just not good I had so much anger and resintment from that situation and I took it out on her. Id bring it up in every fight and honestly felt that if we broke up i wouldnt care because what she had done. Well, she called me and said we needed space and she wanted to hang out with her friends more...but since being together i felt i couldnt trust her to go out with her friends...at least the ones she parties with and flirts with and had the bi thing with and promotes her to cheat on me...so i said if you do its over....well she did and it was over. Now, each day i find myself getting more and more depressed and her getting over me more every day. Every day of the week shes going to parties getting bare'd out messing with guys....and i guess the last straw happened when i ran into her and saw she had a huge hickey on her neck. And i went crazy and drank...and drank..and drank. Today, I called her and asked her to go out to eat with me to tell her that i didnt want to talk on the phone anymore...but when i got there i couldnt help it but i started to almost cry and she kept asking me what was wrong and i told her that i missed her and i cant be with anyone else....and now we are looking at getting back together, but honestly i dont know what to do....she says if i can forget her past and not ask what all she has done in these 2 weeks of being apart shed come back to me..........but, honestly her past hurts me so much, and i know she probablly slept with someone again and i cant handle that... but being away from her and seeing her with hickies hurts worse........if anyone out there knows what i should do please tell me i need help.