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Do I talk to my friend again or not?


SunFLower8

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Hi forum!

 

Fairly new on here.

 

Thought I'd take this nagging dilemma to a forum as online advice is hard to come by.

First of all as the title suggests I'm unsure weather to talk to a pretty long term friend again.

First of all; some background about my relationship. I first met my friend 6 years ago when he started a new school (the school I attended ) when I was 12. Were currently both 18. As school started a few years before I'd already made friends with some other pupils and we formed a circle. Over the years we stayed together and had some good times. A few others came and went. Eventually it was time to leave school and go to further education (sixth form). Including me 4 of us applied for the same place ( including the friend ) and attended.

Fast forward to October last year I started to feel like the relationship I had with the friend wasn't Adequate. I couldn't really put my finger on what it was but there was something about him that put me off. His persona? Behaviour? I feel like I had (ve) fairly good chemistry with him but there were a few things: He would make fun of people on text a lot and show reversed persona a lot.

I believe the real issue however, is how I dealt with this idea I had that he was maybe toxic or manipulating...

I looked online.... Sigh... about manipulating and toxic relationships and decided that he was both decided to withdraw myself slowly from the friendship. A year has now passed and I'm now staring university. I'm commuting locally so I see my family often, but not the same friends. I've disconnected from him through a few social media outlets but not all of them. As the rest of my friends are pretty close nit ( physically ) it's easier for them to talk and see him. I've told two of my other friends how I feel and one passively agreed about my decision. He said he wants to pusrsue his own path ( not sure if he still is ) and the other one is I suppose less agreeing but still fairly understanding. I didn't want to admit my feelings towards my friend so I said I'd remain out to discourage hurt and confusion.

Is it bad that I didn't talk to him face to face and is there anything I can do to make mends?

If anyone has had or is going through a similar experience and can enlighten me with some wisdom it would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks

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Well, if he was toxic and manipulating, no, you shouldn't go back to him. You're at college, start making new friends. You will never find a group of like-minded individuals as you will at university. There are plenty of boys there. Find someone nice. Don't go back to a loser.

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