Shady2003

Alright there's this girl whome I've had this pretty strange semi-friends relationship with. At one stage I liked her and she liked me, we both knew but were too shy to pursue anything.. this was about 2 years ago. I don't mean to sound arrogant but throughout the most recent two years I've had some looks from her where I _know_ she's found me attractive/been interested in me. I've caught her staring at me, once with her mouth literally open.. sounds funny . My most recent encounter with her was in extra math class.. she sat next to me, we didn't talk much sense... just spoke sarcastically to one another throughout, about rubbish. She does have a boyfriend though with whome she seems to have a steady relationship. He's in my grade, I dont know him well. He's very different to her. She has often comes to class crying over their relationship during school because she's upset/he's hurting her, but they always land back together again. He seems to have had a bad influence on her.. she's become wilder and less conservative. Im in my final year of high school and school ends in like 3 days. So we can't really be disciplined anymore.. so I decided to go to school dressed how I like in my own clothes(we have school uniform) and tried to make myself look good, which I'd say I did. At the end of the day my friend and I were sitting on this big potplant, right outside the school, with a couple of people gathered around talking to us. The same girl who I spoke about eariler, passed us, following her boyfriend. When she saw me, she looked at me for one second.. walked more forward, turned her head back to look at me and just stared for like 2 seconds. He eventually realised she was not behind him, and pulled her hand. Does she still like me or is she interested in me from this action? To be honest I did/maybe still like her.. I've often thought that I'm in my final year and my chances with being her have run out. I suppose subconsciously I'm guessing she's thinking the same.

hey thanks so much for the replies.. the truth.. she's quite a nice person,.. but I dont find her attractive. a LOT of guys do though. I don't know.. I'm not used to being liked.. I didn't even try flirt or anything, still a good feeling though.

In about March I changed seats in my English class. I sat next to this girl who I had never really met or spoken to before. We started talking about general stuff. Eventually we were talking all the time. We get on fairly well. Once when we were talking the teacher made a remark in front of the whole class.. he told her to stop flirting with me. She was in denial, she blushed. I don't know her that well though, I don't think you can even call us friends. I got my driver's licence a month ago. When i arrived at school, she told me she wanted to text (SMS) me to wish me well done but she didn't have my number. Then a few weeks ago I decided not to attend this one trip to the University accross the road from my school. I got caught, and was sent there anyway. After the trip was over, she said to me "hey you skipped the talk", I didn't get comments from anyone else as it wasn't much of a deal. Also we all decided to write graffiti on this one wall. She once again told me what I had done. At a party I had a cigarette or too.. she once again told a few days later she saw it. My point is she's really observent about me. In maths class the guy next to me was absent. She came to sit next to me.. but I could see she was really nervous about it. She first put her pencil box on the desk, looked around, then sat. In maths class again.. my mates and I were laughing at something which only we understand as funny, like a private joke... someone had said something and we were amused. For some reason she was laughing too when she saw me laughing. The other day in class she asked me for my number, out of the blue. I dont know.. does she like me or what?

I don't know what we're doing. I think she expects me to decide. She asked to meet me, I said sat night. Look.. I'm not going to worry that she has a BF (maybe she doesnt even?) because she suggested meeting up! How good can her relationship be if she's meeting someone who KNOWS he likes her! Anyways now what should I do.. i think asking for dinner is best. I dont want to just be friends anyways. I dont feel guilty for taking her away from her bf.. she asked to meet me! What do you think blue_soul. Thanks for replying tho!

I would like to correct something from my post on page: link removed We carried on texting each other for a few days. I eventually received a message which said she spent the afternoon at her boyfriend. In that SAME message, she said she would like to meet me because I seem to be a really nice guy. I then asked her how long she had been with him for and asked if she had had a good day with him. She replied and said 3 months, and also asked if I have a girlfriend, and didnt reply to my latter question. I then told her we could meet on Saturday.. does this change much? Also come on guys we've only texted each other and she calls me a nice guy! I mean just cos i send nice messages doesnt make me Mr Nice Guy! I think it's more an excuse to meet me, and try to see wha she wants from me.. in fact couldnt that be her game all along.. you know.. see what he's like, see what to do with her current bf?

Thank you to you all for posting. You've given me some good ideas/advice. I have continued this topic on link removed with a correction and my own thoughts

A couple of weeks back I saw a girl who looked really pretty,etc. I got hold of her number and started to text her. In the first message I told her where I saw her, and told her i thought she was attractive. We carried on texting each other for a few days. I eventually received a message which said she spent the afternoon at her boyfriend. In that SAME message, she said she would like to meet me because I seem to be a really nice guy. I then asked her how long she had been with him for. She replied and said 3 months, and also asked if I have a girlfriend. I told her I recently broke up and said we can meet this saturday night. She said that sounds great. My question is, why would she meet some guy,who shes hasnt seen before,who said she's attractive when she has a BF? Also should I meet her with some friends and her friends or just us? Is she techinically asking for a date?

OK my school prom is a few months away! The I cannot ask the one girl who I really like because she has a boyfriend (she's going with him). There arent many other girls who I like in my grade at the moment and I'm scared if I ask someone, they'll think I like them and I am hinting on something. What should I do in this situation? Thanks

I've been in this EXACT situation.. only I was the guy! I liked this girl so damn much. I spoke to her, flirted, eye contact etc. Then when she started to like me, I became so shy. I acted cold etc. towards her just like you described. But out of shyness! I really liked her too.. I also thought acting cold might make her like me more. It did... at first, then failed. Up to this day I still like her, she still may like me, Im shy to change my behavior towards her. What could have helped? If she approached me and told me she liked me, called me etc. I would have preferred it and things could have happened. That's my advice. Let me know..

About 3 years ago I had a small crush on this girl. She was moved in front of me in class. We did some talking and some playing around, eg. hiding each other's pens etc. Eventually she had a crush on me too. What saddened me most is I wasnt the only guy she liked. Anyway eventually the guy who she liked the most told her off about end of 2001. So beginning of last year she lands up sitting in front of me again. So she started flirting with me majorly and gave huge signs that she liked me. I reckon she had likes me for all that time. Firstly, Im shy, secondly everything felt different. Eventually her crush one me expired (probably from me not talking enough). She probably gave up on me. I regret it completely. Anyway now I still like her A LOT! I just feel so akward and so stupid. Make no mistake.. I've had other girls liking me a lot, but this girl really is just the best. The bad thing is I'm ONLY shy with her, no one else really. On Thursday in the school canteen she sat next to me for about 10 minutes. We spoke a bit, but I just didnt feel the energy like it all used to be. To make matters worse, I was pretty much so speechless. Almost like i feared her. I'd apreciate some advice from you all. thanks

Yesterday im sitting with my friend just talking.. this girl comes up to me (we know each other just averagely) and asks me to help her with her math homework. She thinks im pretty good at math and she's in one of my math classes. Truth is I was too shy and im actually pathetic at the section she needed help on.. So i go somewhere else.. she was there too. I go "I thought you were meant to be doing homework?" she didnt reply. So i start talking to someone else.. she walks away and once again goes "Hey (my name) come help me!" Anyways we were both selected to help with this special evening held at my school. So we pretty were next to each other.. she saw someone eating a biscut and I go "come let's go get".. Right here's the strange part. She takes a bite from a biscut and puts her half eaten biscut in my hand. I looked at her really strange and im like "i dont want this". Then she takes another biscut.. bites it.. puts it in my hand. Is she trying to tell me something? not sure.. she's really flirtatious by nature. any tips/ideas/advice?

Right.. Some of you are going to find this ridiculous.. I started to like this girl in the year 2000. She sat in front of me in one class and we flirted pretty often. I'd say eventually she started to like me, she asked me who I like etc and I was an extremely shy person, so I just stated no one.. but then she told me she had a crush on a guy who she loved etc. Anyways later in 2001 that guy pretty much so told her off the night before his prom ( he asked her), she was all upset. So last year I'd say she still liked me very much. She always used to stare, flirt etc. But I mean like perv flirting to a point even. I'd say she really liked me, it's almost a definite feeling. Anyways I used to be very shy then, more than I am now and I barely reacted. I always liked her, but shyness is a huge problem of mine. So then she started to forget about me etc. Recently I've found myself with a pretty big crush on her. What should i do? Im scared if i tell her i like her she'll think im crazy as last year she hinted enough.. but my shyness got in the way as i said. What should I do?