i find myself in a confusing situation and am not sure whether it is just friendship or something more. i am a gay woman and have been friends for a year now with a woman who is also gay. for most of the last year we have done nothing but argue and clash, about almost everything. we have only been friends, though i know and she knows that i have been smitten with her since our first meeting. over the last month we have been getting along the best ever, and have had a few physical encounters, one which lead to sex. since then we have remained open and honest about what has happened and even though she knows i like her as more than a friend, she professes that she doesn't feel anything more than friendship for me. my confusion lies in the fact that her words of only wanting to be friends doesn't match with our continual physical actions and this new emotional intimacy she says she feels with me. in my heart i think she wants more than just friendship and is afraid and overwhelmed by what she might be feeling. i am willing to accept her in my life a whatever she wants us to be. though she completes me, i do love her and i don't want to her to be afraid. any suggestions as to what is transpiring between she and i, and how can i help her to open herself up.