needorgreed Posted March 1, 2007 Share Posted March 1, 2007 Ok..here's the short story. I asked a guy out, but that was a week ago, and I've figured out that he's not that into me (never initiates contact). We're having dinner tomorrow and I don't really want to go because I think it might be awkward. Should I cancel? I've already tried to cancel once, changed my mind. I don't want to look like a flake, and we're classmates. Link to comment
addictedblue Posted March 1, 2007 Share Posted March 1, 2007 how can you be sure he's not into you if you don't go on the dinner date? unless you really think it will be awkward and uncomfortable, i'd say go, you might be surprised. and if the night sucks...oh well...you've got a million more nights ahead of you that will be better. Link to comment
needorgreed Posted March 1, 2007 Author Share Posted March 1, 2007 Hi..well we are in school the entire day, so basically we see our classmates all the time and I can see his interest waning. This is the second time we're going out, and I had to ask both times. Link to comment
ladyspirit Posted March 1, 2007 Share Posted March 1, 2007 Hi..well we are in school the entire day, so basically we see our classmates all the time and I can see his interest waning. This is the second time we're going out, and I had to ask both times. Well, you seem sure that he's not into you, in my opinion. I would listen to my gut, and I wouldn't go. I'd rather go out with someone who seems into me, and excited about spending time with me. Link to comment
addictedblue Posted March 1, 2007 Share Posted March 1, 2007 Hi..well we are in school the entire day, so basically we see our classmates all the time and I can see his interest waning. This is the second time we're going out, and I had to ask both times. well that changes things. i can actually really relate to your situation. i liked a guy at my job, and asked him out. we went on a first date, he didn't really initiate contact after that, but did ask me for a second time, but probably because he thought he was obligated to, and it was obvious because he ended up blowing it off twice in a row. if its obvious his interest is waning, don't bother. he might either be feeling obligated to go or actually want to, who knows, but often times our womanly intuition is on key. if you can clearly see he isn't as interested as you thought, don't bother, save yourself from more hurt later. and don't take it personally, its not your fault, you guys probably just don't click. Link to comment
needorgreed Posted March 1, 2007 Author Share Posted March 1, 2007 thanks for the replies. I think I'll go to be polite and keep the mood light, and then move on! Link to comment
addictedblue Posted March 1, 2007 Share Posted March 1, 2007 thanks for the replies. I think I'll go to be polite and keep the mood light, and then move on! make sure to go without high expectations. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 1, 2007 Share Posted March 1, 2007 make sure to go without high expectations. i agree.... if you already have concrete plans..... then i can't see a way you can get out of it. just go, have fun, expect nothing. maybe what you think is his interest waning is just him being stressed with school? I don't know, i'm just making stuff up. Anyways, just go, try to have fun, and let him be the next one to initiate contact. good luck PS - if you are afraid it will be awkward, then don't order an appetizer, meal, and dessert. just order the meal, and if things aren't going well, say you need to get going after an hour because of some studying you have to do or something or an early morning meeting. Link to comment
needorgreed Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 hi all...an update. I went, and we had an awesome time. Now I'm utterly confused. I guess I should wait for his next move. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Just wait and see what happens. Personally, i think maybe you should wait for him to ask you out, because you asked him out 2 times..... so i think it is his turn, but again, that's just what i think I would do in your shoes. don't worry about "where things are going", just go out and have fun and let things happen as they may. I am really glad you had a good time after all! Link to comment
needorgreed Posted March 3, 2007 Author Share Posted March 3, 2007 Hi all. I'm hugely tempted to ask this guy out again. It's really confusing because he gives all the right signals while we're out together, but does not call or do the asking out part. I do see him daily in school though. I feel like seeing him again before break happens (he's going away for break)... if I don't ask, what's a reasonable amount of time to wait before I give up? Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 ok, this is just me, but i would let him call you. And if he didn't ask me out within a week or two, I would give up. Look at it this way - if you ask him out again, he might go out with you, and again the next time. but do you want to keep going out with a guy who has never called YOU and asked YOU out? it might make you sit and wonder, like it is now. give him a chance/opportunity now to call and ask you out. but of course, you should do whatever feels right for you. Link to comment
needorgreed Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Gosh..I sure hope he doesn't read this forum. Anyways, I mentioned in passing today that I was interested in checking out a dance club, and he said he would take me this Friday. I guess it's a date! Link to comment
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