what's wrong with my bf?

[a_hummingbird]

i've been dating my bf for more than 1 yr. we moved together a couple of months ago. before me, he had a gf for more than 6 yrs. he told me that they two broke up because they two were too different, e.g., the girl cares too much about money, but he doesn't. the girl moved to a different state after they broke up. they never met after that. a couple of months ago, i found that he was talking to her through IM. we fighted. he said he would not talk to her any more. but he lied. he is still talking to her through IM... i'm frustrated. is he cheating? does he still like her? do they two want to go back together? any suggestion appreciated.

[chai714]

Don't let your insecurities get the best of you. Who is he sleeping next to at night? I talk to my ex at times but without my current knowing. That doesn't mean I want her back or plan on cheating. It means that for several years, we had something special and we can talk every now and then.

[cpc28655]

Don't let your insecurities get the best of you. Who is he sleeping next to at night? I talk to my ex at times but without my current knowing. That doesn't mean I want her back or plan on cheating. It means that for several years, we had something special and we can talk every now and then.

 

I agree with this completely. Perhaps he should not have lied, but talking to the ex is not as serious as you might think. My mother says "worrying is like paying a debt you may never get a bill for."

 

In a nut shell, don't worry about the ex, but ask him not to lie anymore.