in theory what would happen

[subramk]

so I am certain that this girl I have been seeing is toying with me, and I have had enough, I think she still likes me, but is just having fun, I know she is the youngest of three sisters and is used to getting her way all the time and I think that no one has ever told her off,

 

so my plan is just see her one more time and at the end of the night, let it out and say everything, and then just walk away, cuz i have had enough

 

ladies if you were a tease and no guy ever stood up to you before, what would you do if someone did?

[rosie76]

Not being a tease, I don't know, but why go out with her again before telling her off? That's being just as ingenuine as you're accusing her of being. If you're not happy with how things are between you, end it with her in a straight-forward way. There's nothing to be gained by some sort of end-of-night surprise attack - you're the one who'll end up looking childish.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I second what Rosie said, what is doing it at the end of the night going to prove? It's going to show your childish side and honestly if someone did that to me i'd kinda laugh in their face because of how immature and childish it is. Be the bigger person and do it in an adult manner and straight forward .

[subramk]

i dont know when to do it,

 

should i do it over the phone, e-mail, or chatting online, because it seems like thats the only contact we seems to have lately,

 

i agree with being straightforward, and my thinking that i do it at the end of the night, is childish,

 

but any suggestions as to how/when/where i do it?

[Mythical_Suicide]

Do it face to face.. to me any other way is just cowardly. If someone is going to break something off with me I rather it be in person, not over the phone, internet, etc.. Tell her y'all need to get together and talk, dont makeit a date just tell her to meet you somewhere.

[heloladies21]

That's called vindication and won't get you anywhere. It could cause you some problems (fake rape, fake sexual harassment, vandalism to you or the ones you care about). All of this can be avoided if you just come clean with her, let her know what you're looking for and what not, take it as a loss if she's not interested, then move on.

 

You don't want to head down this path of woman hating because although they're not perfect and will pull some stuff sometimes, your actions are what made it get to the point that they're in. If you haven't sufficiently worked the situation right, then you still need work on your skills with women and there's no need to take it out on someone else when you're the one who needs the improvement. Lucky for you there are resources out there to help you.

[heloladies21]

i dont know when to do it,

 

should i do it over the phone, e-mail, or chatting online, because it seems like thats the only contact we seems to have lately,

 

i agree with being straightforward, and my thinking that i do it at the end of the night, is childish,

 

but any suggestions as to how/when/where i do it?

Just call her up right now and let her know. Get it out of your system so you don't have to deal with it in your own mind.

[cpc28655]

Not being a tease, I don't know, but why go out with her again before telling her off? That's being just as ingenuine as you're accusing her of being. If you're not happy with how things are between you, end it with her in a straight-forward way. There's nothing to be gained by some sort of end-of-night surprise attack - you're the one who'll end up looking childish.

 

I second what Rosie said, what is doing it at the end of the night going to prove? It's going to show your childish side and honestly if someone did that to me i'd kinda laugh in their face because of how immature and childish it is. Be the bigger person and do it in an adult manner and straight forward .

 

I third it, lol. These are the two best pieces of advise you could be given. All you will end up doing is making her mad. You think she is toying with you now!?!?!

[Aurian]

How exactly is she teasing you anyways? She could be shy and come off as seeming like a tease, hey?

[subramk]

for the past 3 weeks or so, she has not picked up my phone, i only call her maybe once in three days or so, if anything, but after i call, she called me back only one time, and we talked and such,

 

then we used to always go out on wednesdays ( and she told me she always had a great time ) and suddently there is a yoga class, so no more wednesdays,

 

she called me, and i was mad so i didnt pick up, so she kept on calling till i picked up that night, ( 3 minutes ) of me hanging up and her calling back till i picked up and said hello,

 

she said she had a dream about me where we sleep together, and then right after that, almost no contact with me for 2 days,

 

she said last monday that her car was getting fixed so she wouldnt be able to do anything this week, so i threw a party for work people, and invited her best friend ( who i am good friends with ), and i never mentioned to her , she messages me on friday right before i leave for work, and she says , "hey i heard about the party to nite, hopefully i will see u there, " " my car is still broken, but i called and the guy said it might be ready in an hour or so"

==== then she actually comes to the party, and doesnt really say hi or anything, but i walk up say hi, give her a hug, and showed her where her friends were, then went back to my thing, then later that night, im waiting to go upstairs to dance, and she finds me and get in front of me and walks up, without even asking me to come up with her, i finally get up, and she is waiting around, alone so i approach her, and some guy comes up, and she ignores me, so that was my 3 time rule, so i went back downstairs and was with everyone else, and i see the girls leaving, and nothing, i didnt even get a good bye or anything, and since that friday night, no phone call, no IM, no text, nothing,