One Month

[sasha_faye]

ONE MONTH NC TODAY. I'm super proud of myself.

 

I thought it would get easier after the one month marker, but now I have all these fantasies about telling him off. the NC thing is getting progressively harder. Sigh. The anxiety at night is horrible.

[Newo Ikkin]

A corny person made up a corny line once...and they said 'time heals'. Something like that. I wanted to meet that individual and kick them in the face, because at times it feels as though something may never heal with time. Congratulations on one month of NC...it'll get easier!

[sasha_faye]

Also, I really want someone to kiss at midnight on New Years- IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK?! Gosh, my first New Years single in a long time.

[Newo Ikkin]

You never know, girl...maybe Mr Right is waiting just round the corner...

[sasha_faye]

A corny person made up a corny line once...and they said 'time heals'. Something like that. I wanted to meet that individual and kick them in the face, because at times it feels as though something may never heal with time. Congratulations on one month of NC...it'll get easier!

 

Thank you! I can do this!

[Newo Ikkin]

Damn right you can, missus! And we're all behind you!

[Reluctant Rebuilder]

Way to go! I've had four months of NC, and it's really hard some days so I understand what you are going through. When I'm alone and not doing anything to keep busy, I have mock arguments in my mind with my ex. If we ever run in to each other, and she lays in to me, I'm ready!!

[EddieRentz]

Word up Reluctant

Have those same mock arguments too... I think I have prepared myself for every scenario except the Kobayashi Maru

I am in the same place as you Sasha - up and down, happy then sad, hours of no thoughts of her, then hours of no thoughts without her.

WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS

I wanted to kiss someone at midnight too... think about the worst five things about your ex and how those things go along with that kiss.

May work, may not, I am trying it tonight...

[Lava Rocks]

I argue with the ex all the time in my head. Since our last conversation wasn't really a conversation, I never got to say the things I wanted to say (it wouldn't have mattered if I had,) so I find it therapeutic to get it out in a constructive way. It's like Gestalt therapy - he's already the empty chair.

 

I also have fantasies of actually saying these things to the ex if we ever run into each other; however, I know from past experience that by the time I see him again, I will have recovered enough that I won't really feel the urge to argue. Either that or I'll feel a tremendous urge to dive behind the bar and hide until he leaves... I'm not running from my problems, but I'm not running head first into them either.