She needs space. Now what?

[papalazarou]

You should ONLY call her when you are not going to talk about the "relationship" or all heavy heavy stuff.

 

If she is suffering from depressions she really really doesnt need it. You need to do NC for yourself and her.

 

Let her dictate the pace but in the meantime get on with your things.

 

Once you have healed then go ahead call her - be the person that provided enjoyment in her life.

 

I guarantee if you call her know you wont be able to help yourself talking about your relationship....and that it not a good idea.

[dnozzle]

I have decided that I need to heal. I am sprialing out of control not only with this, but with other things in my life. My job and my schoolwork is suffering and everyone in my life is telling me I need help.

 

So I am going to the doctor today to see about antidepressants. I really hope that helps, because I really need to be able to sleep again.

[papalazarou]

You may not need anti depressants but maybe a good sedative to help you sleep.

 

I see where you are coming from dnozzle I really do with my "ex" she also has depression.

 

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Furthermore I have learnt to be as unobtrusive as possible. At the moment its working. In a month and a half its gone from "Im a mess, I dont want to see you, find someone else, I cant deal with the stress" to "I love you so much, I hate not being near you, I miss you lying next to me"...

 

It probably helped that I did NC for a little while and let her come to me as it were.

[dnozzle]

Well, the doctor agreed that I am definitely depressed. I'm on Lexapro.

 

Well see how that goes.

[papalazarou]

Well, the doctor agreed that I am definitely depressed. I'm on Lexapro.

 

Well see how that goes.

 

 

 

Give it a couple of weeks. I understand it can take that long for anti depressants to work.

 

Hang on in there...

[dnozzle]

Yeah he said he gives me 75% odds of feeling better in 3 weeks, and 90% in 6 weeks. I just wish I had gone the day this happened so I'd be feeling better already.