lbgeef Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 so ive went out with older men my whole life!! since the age of twelve! the only difference is i was on drugs and living that fast life style! now that i have 2 yrs clean i met a guy who is 24 and im 18!! closest age gap ive ever had but for the first time in my life i notice how smothered i feel and it's more of a burden than a luxury!!! i try and control it but then i just get resentful! when im with him im thinking about someone else alot!! (a friend) who's 28 but im like addicted to being around him! this obviously made him jealous! my friendship with this guy who is like my everything (not on a relationship tip)! it irritated me so bad that i broke up with this guy! we tried to still be friends with benefits but im just not into him like that at all i've come to find out! he told me he loved me and he's getting really hurt over me not wanting to be with him!! i have soo much guilt and noticed i always do this in a relationship](*,) why is this!! is it possible to be friends?? is it because im 18 and just not ready for a commitment yet?? Link to comment
rocio Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 Please tell me you weren't sleeping with these guys when you were underage because that's statutory rape. You may be into older guys, but these guys have been taking advantage of you. Especially if they were giving you drugs. As far as your question is concerned, it sounds like you're just not really into the 24 year old. So I wouldn't waste his time. I don't think you have to feel guilty. Just break up with him. But going out with the 28 year old doesn't really sound like a good idea. As yourself: Why would a 28 year old want a relationship with an 18 year old, instead of someone he has more in common with? Link to comment
FoxLocke Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 Maybe a 28-year-old is really young at heart. When both parties are consenting adults it should not matter... However, with Ibgeef, I am noticing a distinct pattern of older men taking advantage of a naive young girl. Ibgeef, I think you should step back and take some time out from relationships. You obviously keep falling for the same type of guy...the WRONG kind of guy. Link to comment
Dako Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 i have soo much guilt and noticed i always do this in a relationship](*,) why is this!! is it possible to be friends?? is it because im 18 and just not ready for a commitment yet?? You shouldn't be messing around with the feelings of others. These guys can be really hurt by your antics, and you have no idea what you want. You must love the attention, and if you keep playing one guy against another, you're in for a world of hurt. It's not your age, but your lack of maturity. Link to comment
blueangel Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 Um... I think the problem is that you're just not ready for any commitment and obviously the older guys that you dated before were only looking for a fun time with YOU. Or perhaps now that you're off drugs, you can see the real human flaws of people as well as what attracts you to them. Boo! on immaturity. Link to comment
lbgeef Posted October 17, 2006 Author Share Posted October 17, 2006 THANKS BLUEANGEL!! i know im not immature cause im exactly the opposite! As far as playing one guy against another is just obserd if i was doing that then guilt wouldn't even creep into my thinking! as far as the 28 year old go's im not looking for a relationship with him im just always wanting to be around him!! He provides a certain security for me and the 24 year old never understood what it was and assumed i was sleeping with my friend which caused alot of resentments for me!! he's a real jealous type and i know i'm not the one to be controlled like that!! u know like "who's that?" who's this" and just no space at all!!!! Link to comment
blueangel Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 i know im not immature Yes...yes, you are. Link to comment
rocio Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 Yes...yes, you are. How do you know? Based on what's written here, I have no opinion regarding her maturity. maybe she could let us know what makes her think she is the opposite of immature? Link to comment
blueangel Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 How do you know? Based on what's written here, I have no opinion regarding her maturity. maybe she could let us know what makes her think she is the opposite of immature? It's called a joke. That's why I did the joking smiley face . JEEZ Link to comment
rocio Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 It's called a joke. That's why I did the joking smiley face . JEEZ yeah, I got it thanks. I can tell the difference between a smile and a frown. I was just curious to know what she thinks maturity implies. Link to comment
blueangel Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 yeah, I got it thanks. I can tell the difference between a smile and a frown. I was just curious to know what she thinks maturity implies. Um, then why did you ask "how do you know?" to me. Boo on YOU. But yes, I'm curious too. Link to comment
rocio Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 Um, then why did you ask "how do you know?" to me. Boo on YOU. But yes, I'm curious too. I guess I'm just not clear on the computer. In fact, I don't make much sense in person either! Ugh. Link to comment
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