helpme2 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I have a friend who lies about everything, little things, big things, everything, I call her out on it and she says she can't stop, that she doesn't even mean to lie but that it just comes out that way. What can I do to help her stop? How can I trust anything she says? Her lies get me into trouble with other friends, she started to make things up about me, I don't know what to do. Link to comment
MystikalDawn Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I don't mean to sound harsh or anything or offend you...but if she is getting YOU into trouble with HER lies and making things up about you...then to me she isn't much of a friend...personally I would try and find a new friend...easy for me to say though because i don't know her. Link to comment
jilligirl Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 ugh i know what you mean. i know someone who is just like that. i've concluded that she's insecure about herself. and i pity her. but am i friends with her? i have to be, she's my sister. Link to comment
Goldfish6888 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 She may need some counselling on her lying. Why does she do it? It's a habit that has been formed by years of doing it - she will need a professional to help her break this habit. Get her to seek some help and its not going to help her win friends through life and is also tough for relationships. Link to comment
Fallout Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I agree with the fish there...get her to seek help about it, if she doesn't want to dump her....she's not worth it, especially since they're not just white lies and they get you in trouble... Link to comment
Goldfish6888 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I agree with the fish there...get her to seek help about it, if she doesn't want to dump her....she's not worth it, especially since they're not just white lies and they get you in trouble... She cant dump her Fallout - its her SISTER!!! She is family! Link to comment
Fallout Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Hey fishie you've been spinning too much in your crystal bowl....the OP was talking about a friend, that was someone else with the sister...and btw, sisters can be dumped too lol Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 sisters CAN be dumped - and often should....IN A VAT OF ACID!! kidding.... But anyway helpme - your friend does that because it makes her feel cooler. She thinks she needs to be the one who is in the know, has the scoop, and will say whatever she thinks the person she is with wants to hear. She is in desparate need of reassurance that she is a nice, cool and interesting person regardless of what stories she has, what dirt she has on who etc. If you've confronted her and she confesses she's having an issue with it, that's a perfect opening to say something to her like, "well, I like you the way you are - you don't have to lie or gossip." Or something like that anyway. Maybe a little less "after school special" but you get the point.... Link to comment
helpme2 Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 she told my husband today that I was cheating on him grr! he didn't believe her, but thought he should let me know that she was telling people that, and that she had this elaborate story about my "affair", I am somewhat of a public figure and I have to go through and figure out how to fix this now, I dropped her, cut ties, told her she isn't welcome around me until she can be honest and trustworthy..I wonder what the aftermath from that will be. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Wow! Serious counseling necessary! And definitely not a true friend! Link to comment
Fallout Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Yeah I was wondering why you called her a friend...now I'm wondering even more lol Is it possible she is jealous of you ? How is her life compared to yours ? Link to comment
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