I really thought I couldn't feel any worse

[slaisebam30]

It's come full circle. My wife told me 2 days ago that when I return from Iraq that I could move into her new house and we could work on "us". For the sake of argument and to continue to be able to see my son before I leave, I decided not to tell her that I would not want to do that. Funny thing, she cried as she asked me for money for gas and food yesterday, and she also went to a prty last night. I visited her unnanounced today and saw her in front of her sisters house with some guy. We never sat outside and talked during our 2 years of marriage, and she never went to any parties.

 

Someone please help and tell me how to deal with this. I see a counselor weekly now but its not seeming to help. I feel bad when I am with the kids, and I can't my wife in her face anymore because I get so angry. My marriage is obviously through. What else can I do to get rid of this enormously draining feeling that I have.

[Closure]

Is it too early to start having fun and enjoying your life which will give you something new to think about?

[robowarrior]

I think you have come to terms that the connection to your son will make you always be connected with her. If i where you id file for divorce, and only see your wife on terms that custody provides you, which will be pain but then in terms of reduced pain versus that you have to see her going with other guys and your son with other step-dads. And that's not nice to say, but its not rocket science to understand that BOTH of you need to move on in your life, now you can take the hard way by creating a lot of difficulties, or you can be compromising in terms and conditions in custody towards your child.

 

Be carefull don't make things worse as they are by putting darkness and hatred into eachothers lives. Keep things formal ,while taking her and your own emotions in consideration.

[slaisebam30]

I just want to know how you get over this god awful feeling I am having which I feel is compounded by the fact that I will be away from my son for a year. Maybe I should seek attention from someone else like she has decided to do? Although I think its way too soon, I think it's the easier way to forget.

[Hope75]

Hey There,

 

What happened that ended your marriage?

 

You are not interested in the least to try and work things out?

[g44]

Step one you say we need to talk

He walks you say sit down it's just a talk

He smiles politely back at you

You stare politely right on through

Some sort of window to your right

As he goes left and you stay right

Between the lines of fear and blame

And you begin to wonder why you came

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

Let him know that you know best

Cause after all you do know best

Try to slip past his defense

Without granting innocence

Lay down a list of what is wrong

The things you've told him all along

Pray to God he hears you

And I pray to God he hears you

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

As he begins to raise his voice

You lower yours and grant him one last choice

Drive until you lose the road

Or break with the ones you've followed

He will do one of two things

He will admit to everything

Or he'll say he's just not the same

And you'll begin to wonder why you came

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

How to save a life

How to save a life

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

How to save a life