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[tripleraven]

I have this 'friend' who keeps pulling me close, then pushing me away.

One minute she is all loving and stuff, and the next minute she is ice cold.

 

Has anyone ever experienced this?

What does this mean?

Any advice?

 

Confused

 

[Smokeycat]

Have you talked to her about this? Mabe she has bipolar disorder. Talk to her about this and ask her why she's doing it. If she says nothing and it worsens...it may be a cry for help. If she's truly a friend...catch her in one of those good moods and ask her about it.

[tripleraven]

thanks for the advice.

 

I've asked in the past, and she said she was scared...when I asked her what she was scared of, she wouldn't say.

[Smokeycat]

Yes, she probably does have a disorder. If you get to talk to her suggest that she talk to a parent or an adult about this. Maybe a guidance counselor. She may have a chemical imbalance and she can't help it b/c she can't understand it. Hope I've helped and good luck!

[tripleraven]

sometimes I think she has feelings for me beyond friendship...and thats why she pulls back

 

I don't think she has a disorder...she doesn't act this way with anyone else.

[Smokeycat]

Hmm...just talk to her about it some more. Tell her you're worried and see where it goes!

[jacobs]

my exe has been doing this to me for the past m8 months now....we broke up in jan..when i give up trying to work things out she gets real sweet,and when i respond its back to ice cold...im sick of it

[jacobs]

my exe has been doing this to me for the past 8 months now....we broke up in jan..when i give up trying to work things out she gets real sweet,and when i respond its back to ice cold...im sick of it

[maynards_razorblade69]

She really likes u. REALLY likes u. she's scared that if you and her were to go out, she'd lose you as a friend if you ever split up. and she likes u too much to sacrifice ur friendship. sumtimes she feels REALLY close to u, and just want to tuch u, b wid u etc, and sumtimes she thinks she has to keep her hands to herself, and that u and her wud both b better off being friends.

hope ive helped. in same situation miself....

[tripleraven]

hmmm...that makes a lot of sense

 

Maybe I should tell her that no matter what, she won't lose my friendship...maybe then she would feel more secure, and less afraid?

 

What do people like this need to hear???

[tripleraven]

I decided to not do anything.

Ended up running into her, and it was all hugs and stuff.

She said she is unclear and that maybe we could talk.

I called her to tell her that we could meet to talk about everything, and she acted like she never even suggested that!

So I waited a week, and then sent her an email inviting her over to have lunch and talk.

No response!

This is so frustrating...I feel like I'm dangling off a string.

 

Any advice???