Help, I think my friends mad at me...

[didyoumissme]

What does it mean when a friend saids to you" don't call or email anymore for a while"(if they are mad and don't want to talk to you)?

Does it mean, don't contact them like forever while? or like a month or so? What's a while of no contact?

[didyoumissme]

I think a friends mad at me because he thinks I lied to him or something. I don't know.. He told me in a recent email to" not to call/email him anymore for a while"

I don't know if he means don't contact him ever again or what

What's a while? Please help

[didyoumissme]

Well maybe you should give them time to calm down some and think about what happened.

Just be patient. It'll be fine.

I just got the email yesterday. I hope he doesn't hate me. does he mean don't contact him anymore forever? What's a while? Thanks.

[avman]

Any possibility you could be smothering him with far too much attention and contact?

 

Is this the same guy you talk about in most of your other posts? If so, I think that could very well be the reason.

[annie24]

I agree with avman. If this is the same guy, I think you are smothering him. Unfortunately, he doesn't seem to be returning the same feelings you have towards him. It sounds like this is becoming an unhealthy obsession. Why have you put all your attention and focus on this one man?

[lozic21]

a while is at least a couple of weeks...at least that's what I would think. It may mean forever to him though, since none of us really know what he's thinking, it's hard to guess.

[annie24]

Another thing to think about.... when someone says that, it means, "don't call me, I'll call you." In other words, when they are ready to talk, they'll call YOU, so you don't have to worry about "how long until you get to call them." you don't.

[didyoumissme]

I'm having such a hard time copeing with this...

[didyoumissme]

Any possibility you could be smothering him with far too much attention and contact?

 

Is this the same guy you talk about in most of your other posts? If so, I think that could very well be the reason.

Yes, it's the same guy....

[didyoumissme]

would he of said for me not to contact him ever again , if he hated me?instead of not for a while? a while means we can maybe talk someday again? Am I thinking right?

[annie24]

stop thinking about him. leave it alone.

[didyoumissme]

But, I'm sad and it's so hard Sometimes I feel strong then I feel weak all over again. I wanna heal But it's so hard...

[didyoumissme]

I feel like he hates me or something like that. But.. He did responded to an email yesterday (after he told me to nop contact him)so for that alone should i just have a piece of mind that he doesnt hate me that maybe its all in my head?

[annie24]

seriously, stop contacting him. you are pushing him farther away.

 

I am afraid your situation is bordering on obsession. have you considered talking to a therapist?

[didyoumissme]

after he told me to not contact him he replied to to an email with answers to some questions I asked. so for that alone should i just have a piece of mind that he doesnt hate me ?

I didn't reply back to the email after he answer a couple questions, I don't think I will til maybe one day he actually contacts me again. Don't worry, I'll give him pently of space.

[annie24]

have you spoken with a therapist about this? It sounds like you may have OCD... sorry if that sounds harsh, but you have been worried about this guy for at least a year now, I wonder if therapy may help you out.

[annie24]

 

 

 

 

 

Normally, I would agree with you RW, but she's been posting about this guy for about 18 months now. I really do think it's getting out of control. It really seems like this has gone beyond a little crush now. It's time to let go. I suggest therapy because it does seem like this ....well... obsession has been going on for too long.

[avman]

I'm afraid I agree with annie24 also. This has been a long standing issue.

[didyoumissme]

Thanks reality_writer & everyone!

 

I don't have time or money to see a therapist. I wanna do this on my own. It's much easlier said then done of course.. I've been good, I haven't contacted him any. I'm hanging in there..sticking to NC! I know I can do it!