Am I Being Pathetic?

[xblondyx]

Hey people. Haven't posted on here for a while but new problems have arisen and I would be grateful for some advice on what to do.

 

Ok, this guy I know, he's a really good mate but recently he told me he loved me. Bit of a shock. I knew he used to but I thought he got over that 'cos it was last September/October.

 

Anyway, he asked my if I love him. I love him as a friend, I told him this, but I wasn't sure if I loved him as more. Being honest here, I was put off by his weight. He's quite fat (I know I sound harsh but even he says it but apparently he's trying to lose the weight but it's taking a longggg time).

 

Am I being pathetic by being put off by this? I don't want to sound mean 'cos I do like him but it's the weight that's putting me off.

 

Has anyone ever been in this situation before? Am I being stupid?

[keefy1972]

Not really sure if we can help what we are attracted to and what we are not. Attraction is huge in relationships.

[Sally00]

Apparently you don't love him back. You would know if you did.

[thursday]

It does sound harsh if you would intend to start a relationship with him if he just wasn't that fat. But really, it's not anything to feel stupid about. I wouldn't date someone who I think I'm not attracted to either.