yeawutever Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 It means he does not love her the way a wife show be treated and isn't thinking of her that moment he's with the other woman or man (LOL). Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 Not in EVERY case. But it's a S T R O N G indication he has very little respect for her. Link to comment
Elisette Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 Not in EVERY case. But it's a S T R O N G indication he has very little respect for her. but respect is very different from loving....so you mean he might love her but has no respect for her??????????? Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 but respect is very different from loving....so you mean he might love her but has no respect for her??????????? He might convince himself he does love her or actually do love her, but it's definitely NOT unconditional love. He is not commiting nor focusing on his wife, the woman he chose to marry and be faithful to. Link to comment
xfault_linex Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 If someone is cheating that usually means they don't love the person they are cheating on because if they did they would truly be dedicated. Respect COMES with love, you cannot say that you love someone but not respect. Same with trust, trust comes with love as well. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 but respect is very different from loving....so you mean he might love her but has no respect for her??????????? well.....yes, I guess that's what I am saying. I think it depends on the individual situation mind you, but I think it IS possible to have an extra marital affair and still love your wife. We do tend to respect the ones we love however; in MOST cases the two are hand-in-hand. They're not mutually exclusive, but USALLY co-exist - if that makes sense. I LOVE my mum but have abolutely no repsect for her. At the same time, I have a profound respect for my dad and I love him...sort of. But BECAUSE I love my husband, I will treat him fairly and respect his feelings. Link to comment
xfault_linex Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 If you love someone, truly love them, you would respect them and you wouldn't even want to be involved with someone else. Most people believe you can love someone but still cheat on them but honestly if someone truly is IN LOVE with someone, they wouldn't even think about it. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 If someone is cheating that usually means they don't love the person they are cheating on because if they did they would truly be dedicated. Respect COMES with love, you cannot say that you love someone but not respect. Same with trust, trust comes with love as well. I totally disagree. Like I said earlier, I have NO respect for my mother but I do love her. As a person as my mum, etc. but I have no respect for her...... none. I think that's very possible. Link to comment
Elisette Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 If someone is cheating that usually means they don't love the person they are cheating on because if they did they would truly be dedicated. Respect COMES with love, you cannot say that you love someone but not respect. Same with trust, trust comes with love as well. that's what I thought to Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 If you love someone, truly love them, you would respect them and you wouldn't even want to be involved with someone else. Most people believe you can love someone but still cheat on them but honestly if someone truly is IN LOVE with someone, they wouldn't even think about it. Sorry Xfault, I don't mean to pick on you but I disagree again. I think sometimes people just get confused, and more than that selfish, and do things they totally regret that hurts the people they TRULY love. It happens... Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I totally disagree. Like I said earlier, I have NO respect for my mother but I do love her. As a person as my mum, etc. but I have no respect for her...... none. I think that's very possible. A love of parents to children is different from a love to your significant other and different from loving a pair of sandles. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 A love of parents to children is different from a love to your significant other and different from loving a pair of sandles. Agreed Ailec - but emotions are emotions. If the two feelings - love and respect - can be separate in this case, why not in a marriage too?? Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 No I meant couple wise. Either way, I think it CAN happen that someone gets selfishly caught up in a moment and can cheat on someone he/she loves. I think it's possible to still love someone even tho you've cheated on them. Doesn't show a lot of character but..... Link to comment
xfault_linex Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 No, it is different with family love and significant other wise. I've been cheated on so many times. Each guy said they loved me but I found out they didn't. Love for family may still be an emotion but it's a totally different emotion than love for significant others. Any psychology professor would agree. Link to comment
Elisette Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 A love of parents to children is different from a love to your significant other and different from loving a pair of sandles. it actually si very different because love for family never ends and for a wife it actually may die and respect for a family is very rare these days (no offense) Link to comment
xfault_linex Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I think you are speaking of a one time fling. I've been talking about those who cheat all the time constantly. If you cheat just once it could be a "in the heat of the moment" thing but all the time, you can't love the person if you do it all the time, you just can't. You are too selfish and disrespectful to love anyone but yourself and the sneaky little relationships you are having. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 ok - i concede to semantics, but I'm just saying, I think it is very possible to sleep with someone else while you're married and still love your partner. Any psychology professor would surely agree.... Link to comment
xfault_linex Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 Only a person obsessed with lust would do that. I despise those obsessed with lust and make love with those they don't love. That's just me...and a million others. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I think you are speaking of a one time fling. I've been talking about those who cheat all the time constantly. If you cheat just once it could be a "in the heat of the moment" thing but all the time, you can't love the person if you do it all the time, you just can't. You are too selfish and disrespectful to love anyone but yourself and the sneaky little relationships you are having. Agreed. But I was answering the question is it possible to cheat and still love your wife. To which apparently you agree, in the case of a one time fling, that YES, it IS possible. That's all I was saying, yes, I think it's possible. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 Still sex is so intimate, so private, and sacred to. You just don't share your body with someone other than your love. Link to comment
Bethany Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I think it is very possible to sleep with someone else while you're married and still love your partner. Any psychology professor would surely agree.... I don't think you have to be a pyschology professor to agree. Of course you can still love your partner while cheating on them. It's why they very rarely leave their 'loved ones' for the other woman/man. I think this love somehow slips onto the back burner when something hot comes along... until everyone gets burned that is. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I don't think you have to be a pyschology professor to agree. Of course you can still love your partner while cheating on them. It's why they very rarely leave their 'loved ones' for the other woman/man. I think this love somehow slips onto the back burner when something hot comes along... until everyone gets burned that is. I was winding her up with the "any psychology professor would agree" comment..... sorry.... Link to comment
Bethany Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I was winding her up with the "any psychology professor would agree" comment..... sorry.... It's ok, I'm with you on this one. Those hoping that men don't love their wives because they are sleeping with them are in for one hell of a shock. Link to comment
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