which way do i go?

[smilineyes]

so im in a very odd place in my life and im not sure which way to go? I was in a 5 year relationship(with a guy...im a girl) up until about a year ago and the breakup was ugly and Very hard on me. after the breakup i went through a period where i mostly hooked up with girls. i cant say date because my piece of mind was not capable of really dating mostly just partying and hooking up. i had always been attracted to girls and have now realized i am bi. after spending the past 6 months not dating anyone i finally feel ready to 'get back out there' while that alone is scary enough im not sure 'which team i want to play for' per say. while most people would say im good looking and itd be easy enough for me to find a guy to date and be my boyfriend i cant help but think i would like to be with a girl. yet when it comes to girls i feel like a giddy 16 year old who doesnt know what they are doing. im not sure how to get past the drunken making out for fun stage that most girls do just for kicks these days and actually find someone who might be looking for more or is even seriously attracted to women. and i cant help wondering if my past bad experience with men is the reason i am attracted to women and if it is plain and simple fear that im dealing with.when it comes to dating women how do i go about actually looking for it....w/o going to gay bars b/c im not down with the one night stand scene....anymore! and how do i explain to a girl i like that im still unsure about my sexuality (at 25)

[puppy]

Maybe the guy you broken up with wasn't the "right one" for you and so there is so much conflict in the relationship. If you love to me with girls, then that is also find.

 

Maybe you should talk to a counseller or talk to a friend about this and see whether they could offer you some advice.

 

Good luck

[Deviant_Kate]

Relationships with women are no less painful than relationships with men. If you're trying to protect yourself, there's no "safe" gender. You shouldn't necessarily decide ahead of time which sex you'd like to date next - just keep your options open and go for whatever person makes your heart do flips. Choosing one sex over the other automatically takes away half your options, and why would you want to do that?

[Tigris]

You don't need to tell anyone that you're not sure what sexuality you are, just ask people out because you like them.

[xoxevanescencexox]

well since you think your bi y dont you try to date a girl,

and see if you like it or not...

But lookin for one sorry cant help you out there

[Tigris]

How are you doing now?