If your lost your job... think about it.

[JohnnyTable]

Say your boss invites you into their office to let you know that the company won't be needing your skills anymore. Your employment has been terminated and they have hired a new employee to replace the small amount of work which you did that was still valuable to them. They thank you for your contribution and send you on your way.

 

What do you do?

 

Sure you might be depressed. Losing a job often sucks. But do you plot on ways to get the job back? Do you sit around wondering if they are going to call you because they miss you at work? Are you wondering if this new employee will really work out? Do you have hope that they will realize their mistake and come begging for your return? Do you stop by the office so that they will realize how good of an employee you were? Of course not, that would be ridiculous!

 

Instead you improve yourself for the marketplace in order to find yourself a new job. Then you go out and find a job that gets you your needs met. Sure you might miss the old job which is fine, but that job is gone.

 

Now think about your ex-relationship. Sound familiar?

 

Of course people don't breakup in the same way that companies fire people, because most people are simply weak cowards in this regard. Instead it would be

 

The company starts to wonder if you are not working out for them. In order to figure this out, they reduce your pay a little bit. You complain, but you stick around. This lets them lower their risk, look for a new employee, while you keep working hard at your job. In fact you might work harder in hopes that your pay will rise again, but it doesn't. When you ask why the paycheck is a little smaller than normal, they come up with some excuse about being "too busy" to give the money for you... but not to worry because it will come. Everything is okay.

 

They keep reducing your pay gradually. Keep in mind that nobody else is receiving a pay cut. Eventually a new employee starts which begins taking over the work that you used to do. They are getting paid really well. At this point the employer is happy with their situation and decides to terminate your employment. They do this by telling you "we just aren't sure where we are in the marketplace right now, and we need to let you go while we figure this out. Maybe we can pay you for work in the future. We just don't know." Then they call you every few weeks to see how you are doing.

 

Sound familiar? Regardless, why should you behave differently in this situation? It's the company who is weak. They are not doing you ANY favors. They are not being nice.

 

Improve yourself for the marketplace and find yourself a new job.

[eyeswideopen]

Well said.

[Johnathan]

Sometimes you keep working there but you stop receiving a paycheck.

Or you're still on payroll, but they start giving you less hours and eventually you're getting zero hours a week.

 

Either way, you realize what's going on, take the hint, and pack your stuff because you realize your employer doesn't have the character to confront you and let you go.

[jchan]

Oh yeah you forgot to add the part about:

 

Once you found a new place to work at, and the former company hears of your excellent rapport and achievements at the company, they'll start calling you, seeing how you are, they might even try to give you another contract.

 

heh, seems like these things are so similar

[joyce1412]

i see the point, but ahhh...if only love were so clear-cut. i wish it were that easy for me to want to find a new 'empoyer'!