what to do

[JamesBryant]

recently I had a sneaking suspicion that my girlfriend was cheating

which proved to be false

but we still arent having sex

and she is telling me that I am not being assertive

I mean I try

I mean I try

but I don't want it to be like I am taking it

so how can I be more assertive ?

[dazedandconfusedbydestiny]

I would ask her why she thinks your not being assertive. It would be hard to be assertive if shes not letting you know why.

[JamesBryant]

I don't know

I just feel kinda .... helpless

[mushroom1129]

i dont know what she means, but umm, i dont know, is there an underlying problem maybe? is she having orgasms during intercourse? Because for a while there, before i learned how to have orgasms, i did'nt really want sex.

[JamesBryant]

yeah

several

it may be that she is just tired

she is about to change jobs and all

and we have been renovationg our house

but if that is the case then say im tired

dont say I am not trying