Please can someone help me....

[sadgrl]

Hello Group....

 

I am new to cyber anything. I need some advice on how to handle this situation. Briefly I'll explain.

 

I met a man through one of the online dating groups. We have emailed for some time and he has told me he has fallen completely in love with me. I have tried to verify everything he has told me so far and it has been true.

 

We are not young kids and this could be something really wonderful EXCEPT for the fact I have not sent him my real photo. I know this sounds ridiculus but this man would not give a woman who looks like me a 2nd look. I am not fat or anything. But very plain. The photo he thinks is me is beautiful.

 

Everything he has told me was before seeing any photo. So he was in love with me the person that was writing. But now he is determined that we finally meet. Where ever I want but we must.

 

How do I tell him the truth without him thinking I am a lier about everything I have told him? I have had several opportunities to get out of this mess and never took them. I was to afraid.

 

Please help me so I don't lose before I start.

 

Thank you so much

 

Sadgrl

[pi_anochik]

All I can really say, is to be honest and tell the truth before you get caught in the lie. Think to yourself, is he going to trust you more if you admit to lying about your photo now, or if you only admit it to him once he's got you cornered. You need to be honest. He fell in love with YOU, not some silly picture! Have faith in that, and hopefully it will all turn out for the best.

 

Also, becareful. I know you think you can trust this guy, but you always need to be wary when meeting people when all you know about them is what they've told you.

 

All the best![/b]

[musicchicus]

What are your other choices? Never meet him? The wedding would quite strange, don't you think?

 

I would suggest just telling him the truth...that you have done something stupid and that you would NEVER, EVER lie like this...but you are SO ATTRACTED to him and were worried.

 

Don't linger too much on how plain you are, you don't want him to think you awful looking or an ogre or anything...Just say it quick and to the point and then send him a real picture.

 

I might suggest going on a girl's day out first though...get your hair and makeup done, find a nice outfit and then go to a Sears or something and have a professional picture done. Put your best foot forward...no point sending him the picture Aunt Louis took of you as you pulled your soaking wet body out of the pool after a long night of drinking (if you know what I mean). : )

 

Then, if he is able to deal with the lack of honesty...NEVER, EVER, EVER make that mistake again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[sadgrl]

To pi-anochik & musicchicus,

 

What wonderful suggestions. You know sometimes we just can't see what is really in front of us.

 

I really do think that wedding would have been kind of odd!!!

 

I only hope and pray that when he does look at my real photo that's not the end of it. But, on the other hand what do I have to lose. I couldn't go around with a bag on my head just so that he couldn't see my face.

 

This may be one of the hardest lessons I am going to have to learn. To think he really did fall for the real me, and it might be because of the fake me I lose him. Isn't that a lesson!!!

 

Sadgrl