steff Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 hey, the other day one of my best friends came to me and told me something that i had no idea what to say to or how to help her. she told me that shes being trying to have sex with her boyfriend (shes 18 like me, and her boyfriend is 20) but everytime he went inside her she screamed with pain, she told me it wasnt that she wasnt 'in the mood' but she didnt know what it was from. i told her to change positions and she said she had.... she also told me she bleed for ages after.... what can i say to her that will help her???? by the way she is not a virgin, so it isnt that.... Link to comment
RayKay Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 I say to help her you tell her to go to her doctor and rule out any medical issues she may have first and foremost. Bleeding for ages after and screaming in pain is not normal if she is not a virgin either, either they are being rough, she has an infection of some sort, or any number of things - she needs to see her doctor either way. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 A few things could be going on - she may have an infection that she doesn't know about that's causing the pain. Another possibility is vaginismus. go to It is possible that, for whatever reason, her PC muscles are tightening involuntarily when she is trying to have sex. Maybe they have some relationship problems or trust issues. For some women, it is hard to have sex if you don't fully 100% trust who you're with. Even if she's not a virgin, issues can arise later that lead to anxiety and nervousness. Link to comment
steff Posted January 27, 2006 Author Share Posted January 27, 2006 i dont think its an infection... she would never sleep with a guy without protection, she is a strong believer in that... sorry forgot to say that she told me she has always had problems, even the first time she did something... so i think she means that its always been painful Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 In that case, I think that going to that website I gave you would be a good idea. Painful sex for women is more common than people know. Additionally, she may have a tilted uterus. She should still go to the doctor though, to make sure that everything is ok. Link to comment
steff Posted January 27, 2006 Author Share Posted January 27, 2006 thanks annie, but i cant seem to get the website to open???? is there another website that would be just as usefull for her??? Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 why can't you get it open? the link is working fine for me. go to search for "painful sex" or "vaginismus" good luck Link to comment
Bethany Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 Just because of the bleeding, she should go and see a doctor. Link to comment
good_charlotte_freak2 Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 I don't know ,uch but I definitely agree to go see the doctor! Link to comment
sweetheart230 Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 I talked to my doctor about it- the really bad pain and the bleeding- and he told me that I probably needed more experience- to be broekn in more (i've only done it a handful of times) and that the guy needs to go slower. Even though I was really turned on, he told me I should extend foreplay and/or use more lubricant. My problem is that I'm really small and tight (my gyno had to use the child sized speculum), but he said that it would improve with time and if the guy took his time. I've also been told that using your fingers to get that area more used to penetration a couple times a week can help. I havn't tried this. But, like everyone else said, the best thing to do is go to a doctor because she should rule out serious medical problems first. Link to comment
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