Is he worth it?

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

Summary of below: I like guy for 1 and 1/2 years +

all friends think he likes me

always soo nice to me

yells out that these two girls are hot (completley out of his character)

my friends think what the hell

his friends think what the hell

i think what the hell and cry

i wonder how much he could hurt me if we actually go out

i wonder what the hell again and try not to cry

i wonder if its worth it

i start to cry because i don't know why (i like him so much)

 

 

Long story short (or not, we will see) this guy i've liked for over a year and a half (we talk with his other friends every day, but i dont actually hang out with him) was talking the other day and all of a sudden yelled ur hot to these two girls crossing the street. This shcoked me because he is usually such a shy guy, but he has been acting weird the last couple of days (and i know he doesnt like the girls because he didnt know who they were). It was just so out of character for him. like so extremley out of character! (i apologize for the previous "like") my friends could have sworn he felt the same way about me, even his best friend said i should ask him out (we're pretty good friends too). He would always deny how other girls (even teh ones i knew were pretty) were pretty when i was around and when his friends were going on about it, but the last couple of days he's been acting so weird. Some of my friends said that he was trying to make me jealious, but that just doesnt sound like him. The others didn't know why the hell he would do that and were jsut as confused as i am. One of my guy friends who's a little older and mature said that he was probably just showing off to his friends or that maybe he was stressed out (exam time right now) and just acting out. It was just so unlike him! I still can't believe he did that. Even his best friends was in shock. I don't know if he was trying to seem more outgoing or macho or if it was his twisted way of trying to impress me but, again, what the hell! Not like him at all! I don't know what's going on. He made me so mad that I had to fight back tears in front of them though none of them noticed because i hid it very well. I sort of lost it wheni walked away though. But if he can hurt me this much when we've never even gone out, then how much could he hurt me if we did. I just don't know if it's worth it. All of my friends don't know what the hell is up with him. HE WOULD NEVER DO THAT! HIS BEST FRIENDS SINCE FOREVER THINKS SO! Even my good friend who has been reserving her opinion ws shocked and came right out and said she though he was really into me, but had no clue why he would do this. I just don't know.................. (sorry for the length)

[BlueWolf]

Hah, don't think on it much. I act out of character sometimes too. Yeah, I can be considered shy, and yeah, I can act like he did too. I usually don't do it to make someone else jealous, but because I just feel comfortable with myself. It’s not that he was trying to impress others either, but again, he was just feeling good at the moment.

Just ask him out.

 

Again, you're thinking about this way too much. Ignore it and move on. I can tell you that it doesn't mean much.

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

omg, thank you for answering (sorry for the length again)

the ask him out thing made me laugh because thats what half the school has been telling me for the past 1 and a half years, and coming from a complete stranger, that makes me really think i should (i really dont know why...)

oh, by the way, im usually quite cheerful and not at all emo, but this weekend just sucks!

[BlueWolf]

Does he actually know you like him? One year is a long time. You should have asked him long ago. Just watch the crowd of people after me tell you that.

 

And be casual when you do it. Don't make it seem like it's a big deal. It's very important to just be yourself.

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

lol, oh gosh i know i should have but im just soo nervous and hes shy so he wouldnt do that

i think he might know just like i think he does because i always catch him staring at me or looking at me and when i talk to him he looks right into my eyes...... but i get so upset thinking about him yelling at those girls! everytime i want to yell..uhhh

and its actually been over one and a halfs year (some say that's cute, i am personally starting to think it's sad)

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

Oh, but to answer your question, i've never told him, nor him i

[BlueWolf]

I made this thread some time ago. It can be difficult to express yourself, but even if I'm a hypocrite at the issue myself, I know that it is never a bad thing to do it. Tell him how you feel. I've also read other people post how they both liked each other but never asked each other out, and found out years later about it. Don't miss your opportunity. He may be feeling the exact way you are, but, c'mon, someone's gotta say something!

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

Why can't he say something! lol, sorry me being difficult. Alrigth the guy think that it really wasn't that big of a deal, and the girls think that it was. He being a guy I would have to agree with you on that, but me being a girl, i have to speak in a generality here, we tend to blow up everything and, i especially, tend to overanalyze EVERYTHING! My brain is my curse..... just kidding, i swear i'm not full of myslef. And i am scared of missing my oppurtunity too......... ahh!

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

Okay, i just read the thread you reccomended, and I have to say that you are very intelligent. But in my case I was saying I don't fear rejection so I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. Then i realized i truly do fear rejection, but not from a date, from a realtionship I could really seee working. I'm afraid to loose soemthing I never had. I also tend to give myself a panic attack whe I attempt to ask him out. One time I actually thought I said his name outloud to call him over so I oculd ask him, and I absoultluey froze and forgot what I needed to say (it turns out I never said anything outloud, but stood there with my mouth open for about a minute while he walked away).

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

How have 50 people seen this and only 1 commented? grrr

[ducky]

Relax, it's possible that he's only doing that to make you jealous. I won't read that as a sign that he's not interested in you! Continue flirting with him, and good luck!

[hutch007]

well i just gave some advise to you actuly a second ago, after you gave me some, from my guess this is the same guy you want to show u like without sayng it directly, well if hes shy like you say, you have to make the first move, talking bout myself now, im pretty shy too actuly, only diff. you can never tell i liek sumone, and when they do find out, i usualy have lost the feelin do to fearing rejections, if i were u, GO FOR IT!!!

Whats there to lose? if he "i think he does because i always catch him staring at me or looking at me and when i talk to him he looks right into my eyes...... " this is a way saying he likes you, or atleast is interested from what i know, im sure blue wolf can back me up on that.

[BlueWolf]

For us guys an obvious sign that we are interested in someone is when we glance over. I do it, and I really never do it to someone I don't find interesting.

 

But you know, you'll never really know until you actually ask.

[hutch007]

i totaly agree with bluewolf, i do it also, best thing is when he does it and you relize hes looking at u and he doesnt turn away,

[Ghostrider4042005]

it is true but i usually find my self just more than glancing haha but yeah it's good to make it obvious you're interested in her

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

Thanks guys

 

So you all just think he was finally being a guy in front of me? If it's not a huge deal then maybe we (my friends who are girls) are blowing it way out of proportion. Myabe tomorrow i'll finally be able to tell him how i feel.....

[Markers]

what do you do when you glance at eachother? If you just turn away, no matter how excited you feel about him glancing, he might take it as "yeah, she saw I was checking her out and she just turned away = no interest". Make a move, and if you need encouragement, try really looking at him for some time. And don't chicken out if he notices, let him notice. I bet the reaction could be pretty encouraging...

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

Thanks for commenting on my thread ("Is he worht it?"). I just feel like i'm playing russian roulette every time i look at him though...... lol. Oh well, i guess i'll try staring at him for a while and see waht happens. Hopefully it wont come off too stokerish.........

[ducky]

Oh well, i guess i'll try staring at him for a while and see waht happens. Hopefully it wont come off too stokerish.........

 

You go, girl! One suggestion, perhaps you can gaze in his direction and smile at the same time! i.e. Hold his gaze for 5 seconds, smile, and look down.

 

Good luck!