In need of some advice.

[So_lost]

Hello people!

 

I'll just get right to the point… I am in a serious relationship with a girl that I have worked with for the last 5 months. We have been in a relationship for nearly 2 months and things have been moving fast, but it is a good "fast". I really do love her and she loves me. We have both been in a few past relationships to know weather or not we are in love or not. However that isn't the problem.

 

I am 21 years old and as of lately I have been having some issues with our sex life. In the past with other women that I have been with I have never experienced this problem. I am extremely attracted to her and when we start to get intimate I can maintain an erection but when it comes to having sex I lose it.

 

I have read a few articles on-line regarding this issue and a few of them stated that it is performance anxiety… During foreplay I am erect and I have no problem but once we decide to engage in sexual activity I just lose my erection. It has happed 3 times now and we have only been able to have sex once. I am physically attracted to this girl and I enjoy everything about her but I do not understand why this is happening.

 

After reading a few articles and doing some on-line research I found that people say to relax and it is all in your head. I have tried to relax but that thought of losing my erection always comes to mind. It is becoming extremely frustrating and I am hoping it is temporary.

 

I also decided to look into some herbal vitamins to maybe increase the blood flow to my penis. I found that Horny Goat Weed is supposed to help out. So I went to the local GNC and picked up a bottle of 60 capsules to see if it would help. That was 3 days ago and it says that it takes 4 to 5 days to become active in your system. So I am waiting to see if I see any improvements.

 

Now my question is… Is all of this just in my head? Should I be taking the Horny Goat Weed? Is there any advice that you can give me to help me out when the mood strikes? Am I at risk of E.D at the age of 21? Is this just a phase?

 

Any help would be greatly appreciated and if you have any questions that need to be answered in order to assist your advice to me, just ask. Thank you all in advance.

 

So_lost

[ARabbitGod]

You have tried not getting off until you see her? I think after a few days to a week this issue should not be an issue. Also if you can get off, you can get off... so you know it isn’t ED. BTW, if you can get off and it wouldn’t take long to find out, don’t! Save it for her instead of getting the goat pills. If it works then it must be in your head and what are the goat pills going to do?

 

If you think it is stress try exercise. Go running that morning. It is a great way to reduce stress. Prescription: Rigorous exercise (cardio) + no getting off.

[So_lost]

Alright... I feel that I have been under some stress as of late and I am too stubborn to admit it. That, and I work a security job and I haven't been getting much exercise as of late. Don't get me wrong, I am in great shape, but there has been a lack of exercise.

 

I guess I'll wait it out... try my best not to think about it and just be with her. I'll start to run because I have always wanted to.

 

Thank you for your advice and if anyone else has anything else to add that would be great.

 

Thank you ARabbitGod.

[ARabbitGod]

I guess you were looking for some magic cure... it is very rare for one to hop along... guess what one did! (I am not joking... I do have to say that because I most always am being a bit of an * * *).

 

There is this tree that has a bark that does the same job as Viagra (with additional sexual benefits), now if you are not getting exercise and have been getting off before seeing your girl well try to avoid that but even so this stuff looks very interesting.

 

It is called Yohimbe Bark, there is information on wikipedia (including chemical) and many web sites if you do a search for it. There are also extracts but they are said to be crap by some people so the best would be to get the bark. They say it tastes horrible and 5-6 ground teaspoons should do it.

 

No I have never tried the stuff. I recommend you do your own research. If you do try it let me know! It is damn interesting I am thinking of ordering some just to have a conversation piece.

[Day_Walker]

Personally I think its all in your head, you say that you are able to get erect at different times so I wouldnt say that you have E.D. I believe that you need to get the thoughts out of your head and just have fun with it and stop putting pressure on urself.

[So_lost]

Thanks all for the advice.

 

ARabbitGod: Thanks for the tip. The other night I was with her and I never let the thought of not being able to perform pop into my head and all we did was fool around and. I'll do some research on the "Bark"... For a conversation piece like you said. It might be fun for awhile.

 

For anyone else reading this I really do suggest communication. My girl used to "pull" on me hard and it would slightly hurt... All I had to do was work up the courage to tell her how I like to be touched. Then things seemed to be fine from there.

 

Day_Walker: Thanks!... I'll have fun with it... like I said earlier, we had fun the other night and it was awesome!...