Meeting women through personals ads

[grneyedscotsman]

Meeting women through personals ads is a good, low-risk way to interact with women safely and impersonally before meeting in person.

Women are more likely to look at ads and respond than they are to place one themselves, so don't be daunted by the fact that 99% of the postings are by men. Your focus must be on creating an ad that gets women reading the listing to respond. While many of these women may be overweight or unattractive to you in some other way, the responses you get are wonderful opportunities to practice flirting. But don't read personals intending to find a woman posting for you. You must do the work, you must post, and with skill and luck, the woman you want will reply.

 

The ad you place should be short. Why? Because First, short ads are cheaper and sometimes free. Second, long ads put women off. If you've ever read personal ads, you've probably seen an ad from a guy who goes on and on and on for twenty or thirty lines This looks weird, and IT IS weird. You're not there to tell her your life story. All you want is to inspire her to call or write.

 

A good ad has four parts. First you describe the feeling you want her to feel. Second, you briefly describe yourself physically. Third, you describe your emotional availability, and fourth, you make an invitation. Let's look at these steps one at a time.

 

1. Describe the feeling you want her to feel

 

Because romance is all about feelings, you must describe one in your ad. As we've said before, describing a feeling creates a feeling, because when you describe a feeling, the listener must go inside and feel it to be able to understand what you are talking about. Ask yourself, what kind of feeling do you want the woman reading your ad to feel? Attraction, intrigue, romance, lust, curiosity?

Your first sentence or two should remind her of those feelings, and of how much she likes to feel them. It's good to ask a question, like "Have you ever felt totally connected and utterly loved?" or "Can romance last forever? I think it can!"

 

2. Briefly describe yourself physically

 

Then follow your introduction with a few words about yourself. e.g."I'm looking, too. SWM, 33, 5'11" tall, fit and attractive." Describe yourself generously (if people have said you are attractive, you can say it), but don't lie. If you aren't fit, don't say so, but also remember-you don't have to be Arnold Schwarzenegger to think of yourself as fit. It's okay to omit your less attractive qualities. If you are very overweight, you don't have to mention weight at all. Just think of yourself having fun and don't focus on sex. Be relaxed and you'll be more successful. You just want women to respond, so you can interact with them.

 

3. Describe your emotional availability

 

This is an important step. Women complain that men aren't in touch with their emotions, and are hard to have relationships with. We've found that phrase, "Am emotionally literate and willing to take risks," works wonders in personal ads (especially if it is true). If you aren't emotionally literate (that is, you can't tell anger from grief, and the last time you cried was when you dropped a brick on your foot), you can still honestly say, "willing to take emotional risks." After all, you took an emotional risk just by placing the ad.

 

4. Make an invitation

 

This is where you close the deal, and ask her to communicate with you. Here you say something like "if this touches something in you, call," or "if this stirs something in you, call." Emotional talk will stir most women, no matter who it comes from. By asking them to call if they are moved, you are drawing their attention to the feelings they had reading your ad, and making those feelings mean that they should call.

 

I hope this is of some use to you.

Take care/ Godspeed-(prosperous journey) 8)

 

grneyedscotsman

[BrandonBo]

sure

[captain_nemo]

HEY SCOTS

 

HOW CAN I POST AN AD FREE OF COST??

 

NO DON'T WANT 2 SPEND MONEY...PARTICULARLY ONLINE PAYMENTS ARE RISKY.

 

NEMO