differances between guys and girls

[Bitter_Blasphemy]

so idk if this is a weird question or what but here goes-

 

my boyfriend and i love to make out but theres a problem. he seems to get a lot more aroused than i do when we make out. like ive said in previous posts, were both very religious so were not going to go beyond making out, but is there something wrong with me in which i cant get aroused when i make out? or is it something wrong with him? its strange, because all the stuff he does to me, it makes me feel really really good, but i just dont get turned on at all by any of it. pleace leave some feedback

[MetallicAguy]

Maybe you don't think he's as physically attractive as you wish him to be (which you can't change that of course)...if he gets more aroused he obviously enjoying the hell out of it and doesn't want to screw up.

[Natedoggld182]

do you find him attractive

[Bitter_Blasphemy]

yeah, i do. i love him with all my heart too

[MetallicAguy]

Maybe he's so perfect that it doesn't do it for you. That's why I date people who aren't perfect (lol, I can't find anyone who's perfect anyway) because that way it doesn't get boring and remains a challenge.

[obscuresin]

First of all, what do you mean by making out? Don't mean to ask for any details, but is it just kissing or is there more than that, kinda like preliminatory actions....

[JRM]

When you make out, what goes on? Does he embrace you gently and make sure you enjoy yourself too, or does he basically just fufill his own need to have physical contact with a female person?

[skyteph]

Maybe because, as you've said, you're really religious and in your subconscious that's interfering with the good time you're having...?

 

I doubt it's because he isn't attractive, he's just probably feeling it a bit more then you, no biggie.

[Gilgamesh]

If what he is doing feels good to you, then thats a good step, men obviously show how excited they are just by the sheer mechanics involved.

 

There is no normal or abnormal arousal, when you practice relaxing, and going with the pleasurable feelings you will become more and more aroused.

 

men can become aroused withing seconds, teenager boys usually can get aroused if the wind blows in the right direction.

 

with girls it takes more time, and a lot more is involved, not just touching, and kissing, but also a sense of security, love and trust.

 

anyway, there is nothing wrong with feeling good, so don't feel guilty about that, but if your an adult and decide to go further, make sure he wears a condom at all times.

[Day_Walker]

I think your problem is mental rather than physical, it would seem to me that you are adament about keeping your boundaries as far as sexual activity is concerned. In other words I think that you're holding back. Its also possible that you need more stimulation than what he is doing.