poetsheart Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 After 8 weeks of nc, he has now begun to message me (twice).... I find myself really thinking about messaging him back and breaking nc after 8 weeks, I am nearly into my 9th week.... I am really suffering, I am not sleeping and when I get his message I lie awake all night wondering whether to respond or not... I feel like I want to break nc, but I don't want to give too much away of how I am feeling to him.... I am unsure of what he wants.... what can I say without giving my feelings away after having controlled myself for nearly 9 weeks.... should I say, "What do you want from me"?, I don't know.... I am really suffering now, and need advice asap.... please, please help... should I break nc, if I do, will I regret it? The need is very overwhelming, I feel like messaging more than keeping nc... Link to comment
DN Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 What does he say in the messages? Link to comment
poetsheart Posted September 9, 2005 Author Share Posted September 9, 2005 one said that he was thinking of me...., the other said that his feelings about me are more intense in the night time, by avoiding him, that he feels me talking to him in his dreams etc, that he is tired.... (he hasn't really said he loved me or wanted to get back), I am so unsure.... Link to comment
DN Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 I think you should message him and say that if he wants to get back together then say so - otherwise don't contact you again. Link to comment
poetsheart Posted September 9, 2005 Author Share Posted September 9, 2005 Thanks for your advice and taking the time to respond to me.... my heart is beating wildly... I will post back what I said and what happened.... poet. Link to comment
poetsheart Posted September 9, 2005 Author Share Posted September 9, 2005 I don't know if I can do it... Link to comment
DN Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Sure you can - type the message and then click "send'. Then breathe a sigh of relief Link to comment
poetsheart Posted September 9, 2005 Author Share Posted September 9, 2005 I think I am scared, i put so much love into 2 years of our relationship and living with him.... I'm afraid to give too much of myself away... one thing I know, that nc is not really benefitting me at the moment, I just have to think of the right thing to say... You are precious for responding to me... Link to comment
obscuresin Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Just say this : What are you trying to say? And see from there. Good luck, be strong. The point of NC is to make the other get in touch with you I think (or to forget someone depending on the scenario). Link to comment
Natedoggld182 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 THATS GOOD!! That is the perfect response! I'll have to remember that. Link to comment
ReadyorNot Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 I agree... message back "What are you trying to say" I think you are amazing that you havent messaged him back yet. When I was in NC with my ex (this was in 1999) I would have been so happy and responded right away if he tried to contact me in any way. YOU ARE STRONG! Link to comment
DN Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 THATS GOOD!! That is the perfect response! I'll have to remember that. Not to be argumentative but suppose he answers "just keeping in touch". You still won't know what he really wants and will have to contact him again if you want to find out. Be direct. You know what you want - so if he can't or won't give it to you then you will know by his response and can decide how to proceed after that. Link to comment
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