he say that he wants to marry me but he hasnt told his mom

[lovebound]

ive been dating this wonderful guy, and like all relasionship we had ou problems. well hes lied about talking to his ex-girlfriend and look at internet porn. besides that we are pretty happy.

 

i have promblems trusting because o f past relasonships, but i love him with all of my heart. he tells me all the time he loves me. he's only told me once that he wanted to marry me. but always tells me im the only one he wants that know one better for him.

 

but i think id pressed the issue, ive looked at rings, named places for the wedding and who would be in it and everything. he always joins in and tells me what he likes and dosent like.

 

it makes me believe its what he wants but im not so sure. he hast told his mother that we are getting married, so that makes me feel not real. like im invisable, why am i here. i think ive made this whole thing into something its not. what does it mean when he wont tell his mother his excuse his he dosent want to hurt his moms feelings. help me what do i do?

[Mun]

Maybe he is waiting to tell his mother once he gets you the ring?

 

He's a wonderful guy who lies about talking to his ex gf and looking at porn . Be careful. Make sure you can trust him before you committ to him.. and that he is as committed to you as he says.

Look at his actions... not his words.

 

Best wishes!

[Glorie]

If he lies perhaps you should be wary and take this more slowly. As to the other issue, he's said that he wants to marry you, and that's nice, but that's not a proposal. I don't think it's appropriate to start making wedding plans until he's actually proposed, and if you're talking about wedding stuff now, you may be scaring him off before he has a chance to ask you.

Please think hard about whether you want a lifetime with this guy or if you're just getting excited about planning a wedding. I'm not trying to be flippant, some women actually fall prey to this and end up making a huge mistake.

[melrich]

he hast told his mother that we are getting married, so that makes me feel not real.

 

It's hard to tell from your post but has he actually asked you to marry him? Are you engaged? If not then I don't see how he could tell his mother that you are getting married?

[Hope75]

Yes I agree with Melrich, was there an offical proposal?

 

From what you wrote, no, he mentioned that he wants to marry you (at some point) and you took it overboard and started looking a rings and planning.

 

There is a BIG difference between a guy telling you that he wants to marry you and actually ASKING you to marry him.

 

Until and unless that happens, I think it's a bit presumptuous of you to be making plans and ring shopping (shouldn't HE be doing that?) and expecting him to tell his mother.

 

How old are you guys? How long have you been together?