on a break with my b/f....cant get my ex outta my head.

[sweets20]

My b/f and I have been arguing about how I need my space for over 6 months now. He wants to see me all the time and when I'm not going to see him, he needs to know when the next time I see him is going to be. He needs everything to be planned out all the time and I can't live that way. I'm too independent to need to be with someone every second of every day. And he's the exact opposite. I've told him how I feel a hundred times but nothing has changed and it got to the point where there had to be serious consequences. So we've been on a break for a couple of days now so I can sort out how I feel. We've been together for almost a year and a half and I'm not sure if I'm in love with him anymore. We have so much fun together (when we arent arguing about that stuff) but I'm afraid it might just be on a friend level because I'm not physically attracted to him anymore. I'm not sure if its because he smothers me so much and it'll pass or if its just how I really feel. Plus, he's already tried to contact me both days of this break saying how he needs to know what im thinking and how he cant do this. But I can't tell him anything because we're on a break so i can figure it all out! I love him I just don't know if im IN love with him.

 

Meanwhile, I broke up with my ex a year and a half ago for the same smothering reason, but it was never nearly this bad. Now, and for a while now, I can't stop thinking about how he's doing and what he's been up to. But he wants nothing to do with me, being that I tried to talk to him online for the first time the other day and he never responded. And we ended pretty harshly and he told me then that he never wanted to talk to me again. I'm not sure if I'd want to get together with him again but I can't stop thinking about him.

 

I don't know if I should break it off with my current b/f or not. Regardless of if I go and talk to my ex. Should I try to talk to my ex again? I feel like I can't sort my thoughts out without talking to him, because I don't have any closure from that relationship. I don't have his # or email address tho. only his screenname and he's always online. HELP PLEASE!

[Lightingbird]

Your decision is simple.

 

Since you are not in love with him or not sure please do something that you did not mention at all, in nothing that you just wrote.

 

Think of your former lovers feelings.

 

You might want to cut all ties with your current boyfriend. Let him go so that he can live his life and not spend another day behind a woman that does NOT share his feelings.

 

Please handle your current situation before you try to backup into your ex-boyfriend. A possible reason that he may not be responding is the same type of feelings that you are putting your current boyfriend through.

 

It lacks respect.

It shows selfishness.

It says that you are not in control or your feelings.

 

All of these may be wrong but be considerate of others feelings.

 

Sorry on this board, you will not get what you desire to read, but rather what you need to see.

 

Make the right decision.

Good luck to you.