Has sex made it a mess?!?

[futura1607306436]

I met this guy like two years ago through my mother. We are both the same age (22) He was not someone that I was immediately interested in but I did find him to be sort of attractive. I got his phone number from my mother because I had to go to a formal banquet and did not have an escort. I called him and he accepted my invitation. We had a very good time and that was the beginning of us getting to know each other. That same night I found out that he had a girlfriend of 4 years and that they were not on the best of terms. But it wasnt your aveage "he's a cheating dog story". Never once at this point did either of us approach it as anything more than a friendship even though the attraction was evident. For almost a year we just continued to talk on the phone once in a while. Then he broke up with his girlfriend about a year into us knowing each other. He did not tell me about it right away...but about 3 months after they'd been apart he told me about it and began to pursue me. We've gone out a couple of times, he usually calls me maybe an average of once a week, but that has been consistent for a while now. It didnt bother me until I had sex with him. I guess I knew that that wasnt going to be the best thing to do but I did it anyway. He is the type of person who would rather say nothing than to lie so he has made no promises but he has made it clear to me that he does see the strong possibility of us being together somewhere down the road. But alot of things are unclear. It is as if he kind of wants them to stay that way. Now he has relocated with his job for a year and I am thinking that maybe we are at a wall now. I think that I messed things up by getting physical with him. Now I am just trying to figure out if I should just walk away from this and count my losses or whether I should ride it out and see where it could go. I just dont want it to end up being a longterm booty call arrangement until he finds someone else. Somebody help me!

[KYTEDREAMZ]

HEY.

I see u speak very highly of this man, and im sure thats not one sided, im sure its the same feeling 4 u 2. RIDE, see where it takes u, if your honest with yourself about the situation u cant go wrong. Its all about being able 2 accept NO just as well as we accept YES...................

 

And sweetie if it was just a booty call, U WOULD KNOW, AND WOULD NOT BE ASKING ANYONE ELSE UNLESS U WERE WAITING SOMEONE 2 LIE 2 U IN RESPONSE.............................

 

And if its gets 2 the point that u just CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE

hell take a chance TELL HIM HOW U FEEL, at least youll know where u stand, u feel me?

Look at it this way he can only do 1 of 2 things A)say YES and sweep u on your feet, or B) say NO and try 2 make u understand why u and him cant be.....................think about it

 

keep in touch, let me know how it goes

P.S. GOOD LUCK

[sisterlynch]

Count your losses. He is a loser. Look for someone more innocent. He is a cheater. Please don't be physical with people unless you are in a continuing relationship. You cheapen yourself for being with poeple like that.

[axe03]

AND WHAT ABOUT YOU SISTER?

HAVE YOU EVER BROUGHT HOME ANY STRAY DOGS?

OR JUST MAYBE??????

YOU DONT LIKE MEN AT ALL DO YOU???

[uncledave]

hmmm, just because a relationship gets sexy doesn't mean that when there is no sex there is no love, do you talk about other things on the phone or is he getting a quick fix, you seem to get on well with him but he may well find it harder to commit to a relationship since he is on the bounce, that is no reflection on you.

 

How long did u go out for? do u still talk regularly? what are his feelings and have you considered that he may never have taken it as seriously as you? guys usually don't i should know i am one...