First "date" confusion

[NighttimeNightmare]

5 hours ago, kim42 said:

Maybe, I honestly didn't think about this. 

That’s part on your problem. You’re only concerned with someone’s ability to soothe your anxiety, and not actually about them and their autonomy 

how are you going to ever have a healthy relationship with anyone when you do this?

[NighttimeNightmare]

3 hours ago, kim42 said:

He's replied in the meantime, with more questions.

I know you all probably think I'm crazy by now. I know I need to work on my anxiety issues.

You keep doing this. Same pattern.  Over and over. And you don’t seem to learn from it 

you have an anxiety spiral, you soothe it with his response, you feel better in the moment and say “ok ok ok. I have a problem. All is well now!”  Then 5 minutes later when there’s a completely normal lapse in response the anxiety spiral starts all over again.  You freak out. Make statements about there’s no way he’s into you, people don’t do this, oh my god the sky is falling.  Then bam, he response, “ok ok all is well! I know I have a problem. But all is well now!”

 

I even called it a few pages back. The first time he responded after the silence, you felt good, I literally said “you feel good now but the moment he goes silence again you will spiral”… and you did.  
 

I wonder if you’re addicted to these sorts of trances, the highs and lows of stress and dopamine.  Have you ever not been like this??

[NighttimeNightmare]

Just saw your post where you said you’re done posting in this thread 

 

ok, well… I hope you find some peace and obviously you can return to post if you need to. 

[Capricorn3]

14 hours ago, kim42 said:

I think I'll stop posting in this thread so I can focus on something more useful in my life.

Thank you everyone for your advice and patience, especially @NighttimeNightmare.

^ In that case, thread has run its course.