kungfumaster Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 its destined to fail. jealousy ultimately comes from being insecure in oneself - i mean, since both of you are insecure, it might be okay for a while, but once one of you gains some security and confidence, that person will probably tire of the insecure (nonconfident) person and just leave. Link to comment
nickb Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 well it's definitely not healthy. a healthy relationship doesn't have boundaries like that. you're just setting yourself up for failure by setting unreasonable limits for both of you. a free, trusting relationship doesn't have boundaries. you need to trust that she will behave good when away from you and she should do the same for you. Link to comment
temperamental_taurus Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Eeek!!! - trust me, neither of you can live like that. When two people are in a relationship with each other having trust is imperitive. It is healthy for both of you to interact with the opposite sex... it is healthy for both of you to keep your friends whether they be male or female. It is up to both of you as individuals to not allow anything to be taken beyond mere friendship with a person of the opposite sex. If you continue this way you will suffocate the other person, make them feel isolated and eventually they will be desperate to get out of such a confining relationship. Link to comment
italianstalian Posted May 23, 2005 Author Share Posted May 23, 2005 the thing is i havent really gained fdfdafdsfasfdfadsfdasf Link to comment
Hope75 Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Yeah, I have to agree with the other posters that your expectations are unrealistic, and if she wants to cheat on you, she will, regardless of if you "let" each other talk to members of the opposite sex, which, by the way is ridiculous. You say she cheated on her last bf with you, and yet you went along with this? Did you know about it at the time? Regardless, you know now that she has a history of cheating and yet you chose to be with her, so that's your choice. You can't prevent someone from talking to other people, and the same goes for her. A relationship based on mistrust like this is doomed to fail. You need to work on your trust issues, either together or apart, though, personally, I wouldn't want to be with someone I couldn't trust to even talk to members of the opposite sex. Link to comment
kskm Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 You know when you were younger and your Mother told you not to do something and it seemed harder to not do it because you were told not to?That's what is going to happen. It's inevitable- men talk to women and women talk to men. You both need to get over it and realize that you love each other (if you do) and get on with your life. Stop caring about other guys and she needs to stop caring about other girls. She is with you not them, and vis versa. Link to comment
JynX Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Eh...the old jealousy problem. My close girlfriend has this same problem with her boyfriend, and trust me, jealousy causes a lot of unnessesary fights and cannot be solved by just simply saying, "Oh well you cant talk to any girls and I cant talk to guys." That's not healthy. At all. And come on, be realistic for a minute: is it really possible to stop all communications with the opposite sex? Of course not. That's not something that will help out your relationship, only fail it. I've heard that jealous people tend to be insecure and lack trust in their parther, I'm not saying it's true for your situation, but it's a possibility. It's normal to feel a little jealous when you see your girlfriend talking to some other guy and vise versa. But, why be jealous if you know nothing will come out of it? If you trust her, then you know she won't cheat on you, so why be so overly jealous? JyNx Link to comment
italianstalian Posted May 23, 2005 Author Share Posted May 23, 2005 it fdfdasdsafsadfsfdsfdfasfdfdfasdfsfsfafs Link to comment
italianstalian Posted May 25, 2005 Author Share Posted May 25, 2005 ya it dint work........i even tried cutting a deal w her.....to let her know that i trust her by saying that i can take all the ppl off her list and for only a few to be taken off mine and she said no because she wants me all to herself Link to comment
JynX Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 It doesnt sound like this is going to work. Link to comment
italianstalian Posted May 25, 2005 Author Share Posted May 25, 2005 annnnnnd.......as of about 25min ago....i offically cheated on her.....so.....dont know what to do with that... Link to comment
Hope75 Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 ummmmmmmmm..... what do you mean you officially cheated on her? What did you do? Sounds like her little plan backfired in her face.... Not good. For either of you. Link to comment
temperamental_taurus Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 you cheated huh? well, that's not good... (i hope you used protection at least) obviously there's not alot to this "relationship" - no trust, no commitment - my advice - end it... Link to comment
italianstalian Posted May 26, 2005 Author Share Posted May 26, 2005 i dint end......i guess im still hanging around 4 the sex........i know..ima jerk Link to comment
JynX Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 I think you should end it and just leave things like that....if she finds out you cheated it'll hurt her. Link to comment
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