Kaper Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 hey, this is with a heavy heart that i write this, i've been in a great relationship for 5 years and i feel it's come to an end, and its because of me, i've just accepted that im a sexual addict, i've put a lot of pressure on my girlfriend for sex for a long time and that caused her to want less sexual relationship, and it's been a spiral. in December was the last straw, what happened was that i woke up earlier then her, i was erect and thought i would wake her up with sex, we've had morning sex like this before but this time it didn't work, she felt that i took advantage of her and she felt violated. we had a long talk and she told me that this had happened before and she promised herself that if it happened again she would leave... and now it happened. after the talk she said that it felt like something has changed/broke and she dont know if it can be fixed and shes not sure of what she wants to do. i came into contact with psychologist and i do have the signs of an sexual addict. A bit of a filler here. we've been a couple for 5 years, she dont like posting pictures of us on social media together (she says is feels like "in your face!" on all her friends) we have separated groups of friends. but shes ok with posting pictures of them having fun. she's big on social media because her work is in that field, but her profile on facebook dont show any social status (relationship and so on) and i want to post cute things i do for her, if i plan a date night i want to be able to post a happy moment on my facebook / instagram because im proud of that moment... mid-end of December she started to talk to one of her male x-colleagues and they talk a lot.. her phone goes of 1-5 times every minute, she says its only platonic and that hes now in our city, meanwhile she got somewhat of a flirty message from another guy thats she might work with because he is an expert in his field. the message she got from his was the following "oh nice, you dont work during the holidays, so we could go and get a drink then! with the wink. i confronted her about this expert guy and asked if he knows that she is in a relationship, she said that she guessed that he know because they had a common female friend that knows shes not singel(?!) i came of as the bad guy and jealous BF... right before she headed out for this drink she asked me "would it sooth you if i brought X (the female friend that they in common) and i said "yes it would". new years she spent the last hr on the phone with the x-colleague, i got pissed because when i tried to talk to her she only answered with "mmmm..." with full focus on the phone. the clock hit midnight and i was pissed, i went in to the kitchen and there she stood with the phone in hand and i could see the chatty guy sending a "ahh, you're awesome! heartemoji" and i felt betrayed, we're having a hard time and shes getting "cute" messages from another guy.... This week Tuesday was my day off and we went to the movies and saw star wars, i was just about to "check-in" on facebook when she stopped me and said "dont tag me on it because im going on friday (today) see it with x-colleague and it would be strange if he saw that i went with a couple of days before and saw it" notice that she's ok with posting photos of friends and stuff on Instagram but not when we went to France for a long weekend when her friend was getting married, not one photo of us, and it going to be a punch in the gut if she decides to post and tag him today. i dont want to loose her, i know im an and being a sexual addict isnt a excuse, i've never been a jealous boyfriend, she had previous guy friend that fell for her and she distanced her from them but i cant help to feel insecure. im trying to mend it, i've even asked if she wants me to move out for some time, and i said that we can try and mend our friendship before trying to mend our relationship but she's like hot and cold, one second i can talk to her and it feels like we're doing progress, but the next moment shes so off. is this a lose couse?...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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