MrRedTech33 Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I feel kind of weird even writing this. I guess I will try to tell the base whole story quickly. It was very complicated from the beginning. I was going through a divorce when we met, she still lived with her ex she had broken up with. I got divorced, she moved away from her ex, we started getting closer. we had some ups and downs and even stopped dating for about a week until we hung out again. Through it all we always came back to each other. It had been about 7 months dating at this point and We started doing really well, then she kind of went cold. We hung out again and had a fight, she said she didn't love me and that she didn't mean it when she said it, said she loved her ex and had been hanging out with him again. I was very drunk and it ended badly, us basically not ever going to talk again or see each other. I was such a mess, I love her so much and I was devastated, especially how bad the fight was. After some random late night texts over the next month and a half, we actually had a real text conversation and we ended up meeting up. We both apologized, said how we had missed each other, even said we love each other. Then a few days later she said she could not see me again, that her son was mad she had brought me over. Her son was there when we had our breakup fight, he woke up to us yelling. I respected her decision and left her alone. about a month later I had a show with my band and had a friend invite her. I didn't think she would come but she did. Someone told her I had a girlfriend which I dont', and she left without saying goodbye. Later that night she texted all jealous about me having a girlfriend. The next day she apologized and we started talking again. I thought to go slow and see if we could maybe start dating again. About a week ago she asked to meet up and get a drink, wanted to be my date to a Christmas party. The scheduling didn't work out, so we didn't meet up. we texted a little this last week, and then on Friday new years came up and she said she was hanging out with her ex and friends. I asked if she was with him, she said she was not in a relationship. I asked if she was dating anyone and she said yes, her ex and some other guy. I said "K" and that was basically it. I have been having really bad anxiety and didn't really sleep last night. I wanted to be with her, I think she is obviously still kind of interested in maybe startin up again since we are talking again and she knows I want to be with her. But I don't want to be a option, and I don't want to date someone who is dating other people. I love her so much, but I think I probably need to cut it off. I guess what I am asking is should I just say nothing for now since I am so unsure of how to proceed? Should I tell her I am still interested but not ready to be just friends, and don't want to date unless it is just her and I? go Ghost? tell her how I feel? I even got her a Christmas present and haven't gotten to give it to her yet, was thinking of just dropping it off......please help thanks so much Link to comment
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