how hong do I hold out hope?

[stephie]

My husband has left me, but is still paying the bills and calls to cheack on the kids etc. he even seems to be taking a seruse intrest in my new life but after 15 years he is finished with me? I have been praying but I am finding no change? He is so hurt yet honestly the stuff that hurt him is small? No big sins just lots of small stuff alowed to pill up? My kids will be crushed if I give in, but it hurts so to hope? and honestly I am finding it hard to trust him? and he has acused me of such crule stuff? it has always been my heart to be a good wife but he no longer wants or seems to need me?

[Chillyfrog]

did you do something to provoke this?

[hollybird]

what exactly happened that made him leave. that would be important info b4 anyone can begin to give you advice?

[cs20thcenturyfox]

Hello stephie,

 

Your post does seem to lack alot of detail, anyways have you guys tried marriage counseling?

[stephie]

well it lacks detail, as I do not have much to offer, but yes we were in marage counceling, but I think my husband had a breakdown? We have always had a great family life and a great sex life and a week friendship. and when my oldest son started having big trubles at school wanted to kill himself and others (he is also in councling) he disided that this was my fault, he has been having impodency problems and this is my fault beacuse I gained about 300 pounds in our 15 year marrige. (funny thing is I have lost about 140 and and am still losing through this mess as I am no longer dieting but am trying to make sure all I eat is helthful and I do not let my self self medicate with food anymore) he was layed off at MCI this year and I am starting a new job after being a house wife all that time, so he also has issues with me and money ( mind you I am great with cash but bad with checks and creadit) all this has pilled up and made him look at me with blame and contempt. truth is most of this is not my fault but he seems to need it to be as if , if it were his fault he could not take it, he even said that if he had stayed he would be dead?